If you don't help prepare your dear daughter, she is going to have a much more difficult time adjusting. Also, by not discussing it, the silence makes "death" unspeakable and much more frightening than it is. We all die, and it is terrible that your daughter has to learn this at such a young age, but it is what it is. My dad had a life threatening illness when I was 6, and I think that because he and my mom were open about what was happening helped me deal with it. He actually managed to live another 9 years, but I didn't have to "imagine" what was happening. Kids' imaginations go crazy under stress. As little human beings, kids do their best to "make sense" of why something is happening. It's much better if that sense of understanding is based on fact.
Nik Colon wrote:My daughter knows plenty about death. She knows my bf died from an od and my brother suicide. I explained when my friend died (she was 6 then) that drugs/meds/addiction etc. I explained that it's in some ways like candy, that they liked it so much but like how candy and other things can make you get sick or upset stomach, and how meds can make you better, if you take too much it's really bad and you can die, not that they want to but they take too much and that's what can happen, obviously I have talked much more about as she has gotten older and about drugs and such. With my bro, I didn't tell her right away how until she brought it up. That is also hard to explain why someone would kill themself. That too I tried to explain that sometimes people have mental problems and if they don't get help it makes them feel like the only way is to do that and that it's a sickness in their brain, etc. I guess the other day she was asking my hub why we are here or why do we go here before heaven. As believers, my hub tried to explain like when we are happy or sad or like or dislike something, how would we know unless we felt both, so ultimately, how would we know happiness if we never felt sadness or pain. Bla bla bla. It's all hard to talk about or explain, we can only do our best to try to help them understand even if we don't have all the answers. I hope what I wrote made sense. I was trying to cut it down to fit it all in
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