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Goodbye, my love.

Posted: Wed Aug 19, 2015 6:32 am
by jgall
Hello friends. Sorry I haven't been around much lately. Once my husband entered hospice nothing seemed important other than spending every waking minute with him. I was so blessed to be able to work from home for the last two months of his life. Sadly he passed on August 15. The memorial service is tomorrow. It's just been a complete whirlwind.

I would like to say his passing was peaceful and in the final 6 hours it was mostly peaceful but the preceding three days were anything but. I guess it just happens sometimes especially when the heart is so healthy. But our hospice team was really great at helping us manage his pain and even though outwardly he appeared to be in pain I am pretty convinced he was not really experiencing the pain. His body may have been, but the "aliveness" had left his eyes and he really didn't seem to be there or present. I don't know if this makes any sense to anyone. It's just the only way I can figure how to explain it.

Here is his obituary. He was truly an exceptional human being. My Facebook and email accounts have blown up with messages of love and support. I have been overwhelmed by how many people loved him. I always knew it but now I'm really feeling it.

http://www.legacy.com/obituaries/postbulletin/obituary.aspx?n=christopher-shomenta&pid=175531506

I wish to thank this community for several years of knowledge, information sharing, and loving support. I don't know how I would've gotten through the last nearly 5 years without it.

Namaste,
Julia

Re: Goodbye, my love.

Posted: Wed Aug 19, 2015 6:41 am
by Tanya
So sorry for your lost.

Re: Goodbye, my love.

Posted: Wed Aug 19, 2015 7:04 am
by cmrl
I am so sorry for your loss. Unfortunately, I can relate to this since I also lost my life partner of 32 years on 8/14. Everyone copes differently, but having people around you for support is the most important thing, in my opinion. It sounds as though you have that, and I'm sure the Memorial service will be a comfort.

Namaste, Carol

Re: Goodbye, my love.

Posted: Wed Aug 19, 2015 7:47 am
by ozziej
Sending you (((hugs))) from the other side of the world.

Re: Goodbye, my love.

Posted: Wed Aug 19, 2015 8:49 am
by jalusa
Sorry for your loss.

Jim

Re: Goodbye, my love.

Posted: Wed Aug 19, 2015 8:56 am
by pfCml73183
I am sorry, Julia. It is hard when things don't go the way you were hoping.
I hope all your friends and family will keep you comfortable at this time.
Celeste

Re: Goodbye, my love.

Posted: Wed Aug 19, 2015 9:20 am
by Lee
Julia,

I am so very sorry for your loss. My condolences to you, your kids, other family members and friends.

((((HUGS))) to you all,

Lee

Re: Goodbye, my love.

Posted: Wed Aug 19, 2015 10:16 am
by lhawk0730
Julia, I'm so sorry. Glad for Chris he is at peace, but sorry for how much you will miss him.

Re: Goodbye, my love.

Posted: Wed Aug 19, 2015 10:34 am
by BrownBagger
My condolences and sympathies, Julia. Chris fought the good fight. You were right there with him. Take care.

Re: Goodbye, my love.

Posted: Wed Aug 19, 2015 10:39 am
by Crystald
So sad to learn another journey has ended, so sorry for your loss.

Re: Goodbye, my love.

Posted: Wed Aug 19, 2015 10:45 am
by ams5796
I'm so sorry to read this. I wish you and your family peace and love.


Ann

Re: Goodbye, my love.

Posted: Wed Aug 19, 2015 10:52 am
by Teddi
I am very sorry for your loss. Take care of each other as you grieve, and hang on to the memories.

Teddi

Re: Goodbye, my love.

Posted: Wed Aug 19, 2015 10:53 am
by Frenchie's Wife
Chris is on a new journey beyond the stars !! What a magnificent trip that must be !
He is now part of the universe. Embrace that thought, and my it bring you comfort.
Frenchie ((( HUGS )))

Re: Goodbye, my love.

Posted: Wed Aug 19, 2015 10:59 am
by trapbear
Julia,
I am so sorry for your loss.
Bill

Re: Goodbye, my love.

Posted: Wed Aug 19, 2015 11:44 am
by DarknessEmbraced
Julia I'm so sorry for your loss.*hugs* What a beautiful obituary! Sending you and your family as well as Chris' friends my deepest condolences.