Hello friends. Sorry I haven't been around much lately. Once my husband entered hospice nothing seemed important other than spending every waking minute with him. I was so blessed to be able to work from home for the last two months of his life. Sadly he passed on August 15. The memorial service is tomorrow. It's just been a complete whirlwind.
I would like to say his passing was peaceful and in the final 6 hours it was mostly peaceful but the preceding three days were anything but. I guess it just happens sometimes especially when the heart is so healthy. But our hospice team was really great at helping us manage his pain and even though outwardly he appeared to be in pain I am pretty convinced he was not really experiencing the pain. His body may have been, but the "aliveness" had left his eyes and he really didn't seem to be there or present. I don't know if this makes any sense to anyone. It's just the only way I can figure how to explain it.
Here is his obituary. He was truly an exceptional human being. My Facebook and email accounts have blown up with messages of love and support. I have been overwhelmed by how many people loved him. I always knew it but now I'm really feeling it.http://www.legacy.com/obituaries/postbulletin/obituary.aspx?n=christopher-shomenta&pid=175531506
I wish to thank this community for several years of knowledge, information sharing, and loving support. I don't know how I would've gotten through the last nearly 5 years without it.
DH Chris, 50, Dx Nov '10 Stg 4
cardiac arrest from 5-FU
Iri/Erbi, RFA, liver/colon resection, more Iri/Erbi
Oct14-Feb15 clinical trial
Stopped treatment May15