Postby weisssoccermom » Thu Jul 02, 2015 9:56 am
You are not whining and you have every right to be upset, despondent, whatever you want to call it. You obviously have a LOT on your plate right now....more than most people have......and it is very difficult to have to deal with.
Just hearing you talk about your mom makes me realize (this will come out wrong, I know....but please read on) how fortunate I was not to have to have to deal with the issues of our parents getting older. I am watching my best friend of 30 years deal with her mother who is suffering from end stage Altzheimers and her father who, at 90, recently broke his hip and now is also suffering from some form of dementia. I know her parents quite well and have been helping her as well so have seen, first hand, how difficult this job is. You have my respect and admiration.....dealing with your own illness and then taking care of your elderly mom can not possibly be anything but trying and difficult.....my hat is off to you. You sound like a loving son.
It is hard to have to deal with a close friend's illness/injury, especially when you can't be there. Just know that they are being well taken care of and that, even if you did have the energy to go and visit them, there isn't anything you can do for either of them right now. Don't let the guilt of not seeing them or any guilt for not being able to help your mom get you down. That's easy to say.....I know but much more difficult when you are the one dealing with it.
Perhaps you can talk to your doctor about a different diuretic. Don't wish for TOO much, though, right away. I take a mild diuretic due to water retention after botched foot surgery. Once I asked for a stronger because I didn't feel that the one I was on was 'cutting it'. Wrong choice on my part. My doc gave me a low dose Lasix....man was I in the bathroom constantly.....learned my lesson on that one....am back on my low dose triamterene/HCL.
Take care of yourself and try to take some time for yourself each day. Everything else can wait a few while you regroup and regain your sanity and take some deep breaths. Is there a family member...sibling, cousin, etc....that you can ask for some help.....even something minor like going to the store for your mom. Have you tried calling some social service agencies in your state to help with your mom? Senior Centers might be able to offer some assistance....at least give them a try. You may be pleasantly surprised at what they can do to help your mom and, in the end, help you.
Dx 6/22/2006 IIA rectal cancer
6 wks rad/Xeloda -finished 9/06
1st attempt transanal excision 11/06
11/17/06 XELOX 1 cycle
5 months Xeloda only Dec '06 - April '07
10+ blood clots, 1 DVT 1/07
transanal excision 4/20/07 path-NO CANCER CELLS!
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