While I hesitate to post into this topic I probably should not, hesitate that is
.... just that I will do so now, after other forum issues have quieted.
Reading Scott's original post, and not so much the aftermath, I believe I may recall the specific issues he recalled on the forum and .....
I absolutely relate to his personal issues which he is/has/continues to address for himself.
I could well have been on either side of the flame war in the past, in fact usually was involved in some capacity. As just a regular human being ... I first "see" the discussions thru my own eyes, filter and process ..... then act or step back. As a Mod ... the issue I think he may be talking about involved a poster who had basically caused some "issues" behind the scenes for months while we were dealing with even larger issues ON forum. When I posted into that topic it was as a pissed off Mod who had dealt with this individual for a while and cleaning up the debris. In addition I did not really resonate with the offhanded drive-by, throw it away post content ... when the folks I care about here were having serious issues and some had recently passed away.
The reason I draw a distinction to my on forum responses and behind the scenes duties as a Mod is because it is still essentially me.. the same person ... BUTT in wearing different hats, sometimes
we gots to do what we gots to do.... There are times when I probably go overboard with folks as a poster here and I guarantee there are times when I back off and do not kick the ass of those who seriously need it ! Just so you know that also applies to anyone behind the scenes on this forum. I am who I am, and just remain true to myself... all any one of us can do. SO just because all the gory details do not show up in each and every topic which lights up here like a PET scan at Christmas !!!! ....does NOT mean that there is not often a huge amount of shit which has been / is being dealt with behind the scenes. WORD !
WHICH ... brings me finally to my reply to Scott's original post.
You are not the same person through all this, none of us are.
We have good days, bad days, you and your SEAL buddy are experiencing your own kind of PTSD.
I have never been in military combat, but have stood in front of psychos with weapons, and "trained"
to eliminate the threat so that I prevailed.
Doesn't mean it doesn't change you.... just means you get to walk away that day.
I do not think any normal human could go through that, and what we endure on this Journey, and still be the same person without reassessing who we are, what happened and how it changed us.... and most importantly where do we go from here ?????
I think we'd be lying to ourselves if we did... or even could.
I look into the mirror every morning when I wake up, shave etc. and remember my father's words, which he may have paraphrased from the Bard ?
" The ONLY person you need to answer to today, is the one looking back at you right now. "
If that is not the first priority to me for that day, then what the hell good am I to anyone else with anything else I try to do ?
Folks always need to know the difference between shit and shinola.
WORD !
thanks for letting me share my thoughts in this topic and hope you keep up a presence here Scott
on the Journey with you
CRguy