lilacbreastedroller wrote:So at your company, if someone comes to work obviously having had a boob job, do people do a titty twist? I can't imagine what they do if someone transitions ...
ktwmn wrote:Okay, so at work today someone I don't know well gives me a hug. I was in the assistant director's office and she just walks in (which she does all the time, because he is very attached to her). She had done so the last time I saw her, after she found out about my recurrence. At that time I accepted it. This time I couldn't help myself, I said, "No....no more cancer hugs! Just treat me like normal." Well, this person was very upset with me and stormed out saying that she won't even say hello anymore. Then I get an email from the assistant director telling me that this employee was so upset because of what I said that she left for the day.
I was opposed to having an announcement given to the whole workplace about "my cancer" to begin with (and later found out that other employees who had shoulder surgery, facelifts, etc. did not have to tell anyone but their boss). I was forced into it and although the people I see day to day are not solicitous like that, when someone else is it just reminds me of cancer. I am known for my directness and there is only so much obsequiousness I can stand. I end up having to apologize to these work people for my terrible personality.
I understand that people who have never gone through this don't know what to say, etc. and I should be more understanding of them and the awkwardness they feel. But I go to work for...work. Sometimes I am caught off guard and don't have a nice socially acceptable response. Sorry for my rant, it's just one of the many gifts this terrible disease keeps giving!
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