RayM is Resting in Peace

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RayM is Resting in Peace

Postby WifeOfMike » Fri May 29, 2015 9:42 pm

My Dearest CT Friends,

It is with a sad heart, that I bring you the news that our Dear Friend & Brother in Arms Ray Michels (known here as RayM) passed away this afternoon.
A family member was kind enough to reach out to me several days ago though Facebook & told me he had sadly been in Hospice & was not doing well.
She knew I was still active on the boards, and asked me to relay the news, now that our dear friend Ray is now Peacefully resting with the Angels.
He is survived by his beautiful wife Maria G Scarpello Michels, (Married since July 9, 1983) and his daughter Mandy & son Ben.

His Facebook page is filling with tributes, by many who admired & loved him. For any of you who were connected, here is the link

Some Love shown here for our RayM
RAYM, how are you? viewtopic.php?f=1&t=50169&p=382981#p382981
how are you, ray? viewtopic.php?f=1&t=51408

I hope they don't mind, but I am posting a few pictures of Ray here:
and stealing this line:
"Ray darling may you enjoy wine, surf, painting, laughing, eating crabs and so much more in the great after life."

(Update: his daughter Mandy contacted me & is thankful I shared with you)



May you rest in Peace, Ray Michels,
Blessings to his wife Maria, his son & Daughter, Family & friends
I am lighting candles in your honor tonight

Much love from my tear streaming face & heavy heart
WifeOfMike Vicki
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Re: RayM is Resting in Peace

Postby ams5796 » Fri May 29, 2015 10:07 pm

The pictures and the facebook page confirm what we all already knew. Ray was a special guy who was loved by many. He will be missed. My deepest sympathies to his family.

Stage 3C (or 4?) Rectal Cancer 01/07
2/10 lung mets
3/11 VATS
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2/14 SBRT
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Re: RayM is Resting in Peace

Postby Bev G » Fri May 29, 2015 10:44 pm

58 yo Type1 DM 48 years
12/09 Stage IV 2/22 nodes + liver met, colon resec
3 tx FOLFIRI, liver resec 4/10
9/10 6 mos off chemo, Neg PET&CTC CEA nl
2/11 finished total 10 rounds chemo

9/13 ^17th clean PET/CT NED for now

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Re: RayM is Resting in Peace

Postby MamaN » Fri May 29, 2015 10:48 pm

Its through tears that I write this . He will be missed ! Thoughts and prayers going to his family.
Dx@45 stage t3 n1b m unknown IIIB
Resected in 8/2010 rectosigmoid
5.5 tumor with 3 /26 lymph nodes
Lymph vascular invasion
Folfox sept 2010 to feb 2011
10 tx only stopped due to low wbc

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Re: RayM is Resting in Peace

Postby JJ2212 » Fri May 29, 2015 10:55 pm

My condoleances to all his loved ones. He will be missed.

Rectal cancer dx 04/13 @ 42, MSS, KRAS positive
T3N2M1 (1 lung met)
5 weeks xeloda+radiation finished 07/13
APR 9/13 (permanent colostomy), 27/31 nodes positive :-(
12 rounds of FOLFOX 04/14
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Re: RayM is Resting in Peace

Postby exaussie » Fri May 29, 2015 11:01 pm

Another one too soon. So sad. May his family have peace and love.
DS 26 yrs old diagnosed 6/13 T3N2aM1b
Resection 6/13
6 rounds chemo folfax
12/13 Fissure
hernia surgery 12/13
5 months break
Maintenance chemo 3/14
Crazy growth. Liver failing. Folfox and vectibex 7-29-14
Chemo failure Hospice 8/26
Left us 8/28

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Re: RayM is Resting in Peace

Postby Kathleen808 » Fri May 29, 2015 11:05 pm

So very sad. My heart breaks for his family. Peace my friend.

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1 l nd 9/09 Flfri Avstn
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ND 10/10
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ND 2/12
9/12 Flfri Avastn
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8/16/14 passed into eternal peace

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Re: RayM is Resting in Peace

Postby SMR » Fri May 29, 2015 11:18 pm

Ray and my husband walked a similar path, so we spoke quite a bit before my husband passed. I'm so sorry for his family. I'll raise a glass to you Ray.
DH DX 10/11 st IV unkown prmry
FFOX 12/11
HIPEC 3/12
FFOX 5/12
7/12 FFIRI
12/12 xeloda
1/13 resection
2/13 FFIRI
4/13 5FU/Avastin
9/13 recurrence, failed surgery
Abdominal fistula
11/13 gemzar, heart attack
12/13 Carbo
2/14 Radiation
3/28/2014 passed

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Re: RayM is Resting in Peace

Postby Phuong » Fri May 29, 2015 11:28 pm

He will most certainly be missed. :(
dx'd Stage III Rectal (T3 N1 M0)
Now Stage IV mCRC

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Re: RayM is Resting in Peace

Postby Voxx66 » Fri May 29, 2015 11:35 pm

DX and resect 10/2012 age 46
Stage IIa CRC
liver mets both lobes 8/2013
CEA 28
FOLFOX + Avastin 8/26/13 3 rounds
Folfox only 3 rds + rd 8
platelets low round 7,9,10 5FU only
1/14 CEA 1.0 y90
10/14 mets lung and peri
1/15 Folfiri

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Re: RayM is Resting in Peace

Postby Deborah Ann » Fri May 29, 2015 11:42 pm

No words....cancer sucks...and it is taking way to many before their time...

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Re: RayM is Resting in Peace

Postby ziggymonster » Fri May 29, 2015 11:55 pm

I'm very sorry to hear this,such a nice guy.i hate this damn disease.
DX advanced prostate cancer 2002
2014 still fighting mPca , failed surgery, radiation, hormone
DX Stage IIIa Rectal Cancer 12/12 1 of 12 nodes +
LAR permanent colostomy 1/13
Folfox 2/13 - 7/13 clear CT CEA 1.2
7/14 liver met chemo the resect in Oct
6/15 2 pos lung mets watching for now

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Re: RayM is Resting in Peace

Postby Girl111 » Sat May 30, 2015 12:15 am

Too sad ... I hate this disease . RIP Raym
Dad diagnosed stage 3 cc nov 13
Bowel resection march 14
Started xeloda
1 liver met and 1 node ( small)
Started irinotecan - failed
Poss nano knife now and oxyplatin
Hope the chem works !

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Re: RayM is Resting in Peace

Postby bitchslapped » Sat May 30, 2015 12:40 am

Enjoyed Ray's posts, yet respected his need to take a break from the forum, as most of us understand. Just an all around good guy. Extending my sincere condolences to Ray's family, friends for their loss. May they find comfort through their shared memories, through each other.

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Re: RayM is Resting in Peace

Postby ConnieSPK » Sat May 30, 2015 12:52 am

Sorry to hear of his passing. Another one taken too young. I really hate this.

Condolences to his family,

Connie K.
Dx08@54,StgIV Colon,Liver,Lung, ColonSurg,FOLFOX+Beva
09 LiverSurg
11 FOLFOX+Beva,ox reaction
12 Bi-lat LungVATS
13 New mets L lung FOLFIRI+Zaltrap,5FU reaction
14 Return mets L lung SBRT,successful
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