Annemiek wrote:Hi,
I'm still sort of in the same spot. We had a hard time half year ago when I was diagnosed and admitted to hospital and operated upon within two weeks. There was no time to worry then, but it hit me like a ton of bricks afterwards. I spend my time in hospital writing emails to people telling them the same story over and over again, it helped just repeating the story of what the f**k just happened to our nice comfortable life, I feel hollow and empty and struck by lightning at times as well.
A few weeks back my husband ask my oncologist for the dreaded question on survival rates ( I didn't want to know but he kept guessing so we agreed to ask. The onc looked up and said 30% . i smiled and said, oh so 30% chance of reoccurance? No, 30% chance of no reoccurance. Oh and survival rate? Also 30% chance that you make it 5 years. Glub. I left the room crying. I cried on the way home and cried a lot over the next few days but slowly daily life took over again. I decided (thanks to this lovely forum) that percentages are what they are and don't say anything about me or my body. It still creeps up and me when I'm awake at night during chemo and I get so depressed.
But yesterday and today I went shopping with my girl (5), we went for pizza and I brought her to school by bike and swimming class and felt fine, she loves it when we do the normal stuff, in between the chemo sick days. I have learned so much from her, she takes everything at face value it seems, accepts what comes along and doesn't look ahead to the future ( except her birthday which can't come fast enough)
If you feel like telling people, tell them, if you don't, it's equally okay to not tell and enjoy a normal evening, being normal. You might want to tell people some other time as they will find out eventually when you go through procedures and chemo and you can use all the support there is by then!
I love it when people like Debb reply, it gives hope for us all!
Annemiek
This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.
A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.
Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.
The dark thought, the shame, the malice.
meet them at the door laughing and invite them in.
Be grateful for whatever comes.
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.
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