inthemiddle wrote:Thank you for your honesty. That is exactly what I was looking for. I think I would probably feel the same way, but I have never been in that position.
jillbugs4110 wrote:God willing I.hope she proves ya wrong and lives to raise her kids.
Lisahopes wrote:I guess I see it a little differently seeing as though I was a caretaker and not a cancer patient.
More than likely is that she will not live 5 years. These kids will eventally need their dad.
If things haven't been pleasant for a long time, now is the time to reach out so that these kids know they have you (and so does she). I like the idea of card or a telephone call letting them/her know that you are thinking of them and are there for them. Don't be intrusive. Reach out but take the cue from her/kids.
Who else does the mom have to help her? If she only has her kids, she will be needing you guys eventually.
CRguy wrote:Lisahopes wrote:I guess I see it a little differently seeing as though I was a caretaker and not a cancer patient.
More than likely is that she will not live 5 years. These kids will eventally need their dad.
If things haven't been pleasant for a long time, now is the time to reach out so that these kids know they have you (and so does she). I like the idea of card or a telephone call letting them/her know that you are thinking of them and are there for them. Don't be intrusive. Reach out but take the cue from her/kids.
Who else does the mom have to help her? If she only has her kids, she will be needing you guys eventually.
Lisa …… great advice
I AM a cancer patient and have been caregiver twice so I am coming from both sides.
CR
PainInTheAss wrote:No, it wasn't about her caregiver status. It was about wanting to take the kids more. That's not caregiving, that's child rearing. Moving closer has nothing to do with caregiving either when the mom has not asked for any help. You can't be a caregiver to someone who doesn't want your help.
This entire forum is about asking for input from people in similar situations. I am not out of line in answering her question.
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