Postby Deborah614 » Mon Apr 20, 2015 7:51 pm
I can't quite believe this yet, but yesterday my husband told me he's been undergoing testing for lung cancer. Seriously? While I was hospitalized for 11 days with radiation enteritis and severe dehydration following 28 treatments of chemo and radiation, he had a scan done on what he thought was a hernia, but instead showed a mass on his right lung, and it lit up during a PET scan. Today he had a biopsy. He has been such an amazing support and a true angel while I've been down and never hinted at being scared for his own sake. I'm almost devastated, but not quite, because I'm still processing it.
I'm having my rectum removed in 4 weeks. I've resigned myself to a colostomy. After a few mortifying incidents lately, I'm just not that attached to my sphincter anymore. I'm not afraid of the adjuvant chemo or the side affects. What I'm facing with the rectal surgery is making me think crazy thoughts though, now that my husband is facing this possible (95% probable) diagnosis of lung cancer. We don't have a plan for him yet, the biopsy won't be back til the end of the week, so we don't really know anything about our future. (Once again.) My personal plan was to have the surgery, then kick ass chemo for a few months. I felt sure that was the way to go because my doctors said so and I've read this forum for hours and hours since mid December. Today, not so sure. I'm thinking of taking the "watch and wait" approach so that I'm not on my back, unable to sit, let alone unable to take care of my husband during his treatment. That's what I've read about the LAR surgery. Six weeks or more of feeling horrible?!? I just can't now. Today my GP adamantly insisted that I should do the surgery, even though it's a huge deal in the midst of another huge deal. She prescribed me a top shelf antidepressant. Yikes. I know what my surgeon and oncologist will say if I bring up the notion of "watch and wait". I know what my family and friends will say, but I'm saying I just don't want to do it at this time.
Please, someone, tell me what it's really, really like to lose your rectum. I need some experienced, empathetic and logical guidance and understanding. Please, while you're being honest, tell me chances are my vagina won't fall into the void where my rectum used to be and I won't walk lopsided because my hips are misaligned. Tell me to stop reading the horror stories. Tell me to not Google lung cancer tonight. Someone should probably tell me to buck up, too.
Deb.
dx 12/17/14
stage 2 rectal cancer T3N0M0
standard treatment 28 days radiation w/xeloda, surgery, 8 rounds Folfox
22 shots neupogen 32 days in hospital for infections
60 years old
mother of 6, grandmother of 10, wife of 1 for 35 years
Jeremiah 29:11
05/28/15 APR, Barbie butt, permanent colostomy
May 2016 Cat scans NED!
May 2016 mammogram
June 2016 invasive ductal carcinoma breast cancer left breast stage1
August3 '16 mastectomy with reconstruction, genetic screening scheduled