OT had rough week

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sadysue
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Re: OT had rough week

Postby sadysue » Sun Apr 19, 2015 3:06 pm

Perhaps you can see a lawyer who will give you a free consultation. I think many will do that. I think in a situation like yours, they can force your husband to pay for your attorney. Your husband deserted the marital home - not you - and you have no source of income other than him and are obviously in no condition to work at this time. There might also be some sort of local governmental help you can look into that can appoint an attorny for you - not sure what the laws are where you live. Please don't let him walk all over you and please don't allow him to intimidate you when you are sick. I had a friend who's husband left her because she had cancer and he "just couldn't take it anymore." He walked out on her right in the middle of everything. She was lucky and had family around - but she was also extra lucky and is a 10 year survivor! You can do this too. You have to keep calm (I know how hard that can be) and get a plan together with a good source of legal help. Good luck with your surgery and I will send lots of positive energy and healing thoughts your way. Hugs to you too! I wish you were a neighbor so I could help you. I was divorced and know how horrible it can be.
Mary Ann
Rectal dx 4/2011 (Stage 3B - T3N1M0)
5FU/Rad - daily/6 wks ending 6/2011
Surgery 8/19/2011
Finished 8 rounds Folfox 2/2012
Ileo reverse and port out 3/2012
NED

yiayia
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Re: OT had rough week

Postby yiayia » Sun Apr 19, 2015 3:23 pm

Hi, Mama,

I'm sorry to hear that you're having to deal with all this on the eve of your surgery. You WILL get through this, and he WILL get just what he deserves. I can't even imagine leaving my DW in the middle of this nightmare! I don't post much, but I'm here everyday. My thoughts will be with you in your recovery from surgery, and everyday.

Anne
Caregiver to wife
Dx CC Stage 2B Labor Day 2014
T3N0M0 Stage 2B Resection 9/14
XELODA 10/15-2/15 - F/U Colonoscopy 2/15: Clear
Resume Xeloda 3/15, 3 more cycles.
Endoscopy 7/15: Clear. PET Scan 8/15: CLEAR! NED! Some concern @CEA Level
10/15: CEA rising. 11/15 CT Clear. CEA still rising.
2/16: 1 yr colonoscopy: Clear. CEA still rising.
3/16:CT shows hydronephrosis, 3/16: PET lights up - Recurrence
4/16: Nephrostomy, begin Folfox

Delinda2
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Re: OT had rough week

Postby Delinda2 » Sun Apr 19, 2015 3:26 pm

I can think of more than a few things I'd like to DO to him... :twisted: :evil: :mrgreen:
63 yrs,wife & mom
4/14 dx colon cancer,3C,9/22 nodes
Lymphatic,venous,&perineural invasion
<1cm margin,poorly differentiated
6/14 colostomy take down
7/14 FOLFOX w/9 Nulasta shots
2/16 dx new primary of sigmoid colon
6/16 surgery-rescection on sigmoid, total hysterectomy, temp ileo, stage 4
"I AM the storm."

lpas
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Re: OT had rough week

Postby lpas » Sun Apr 19, 2015 11:56 pm

Ronni, I'm so sorry you're going through this. Will be thinking of you tomorrow with your surgery. Your husband sounds like such an a$$!! Please let us know if there's anything we can do to help.

(((HUGS)))
11/14 Dx sigmoid CC @ 45yo
12/14 Colectomy + hysterectomy
Stage IIIB, T3N1bM0, 2/20 nodes, MSS, G2, KRAS(A146T), TP53, SMAD4, ERBB2, CEA 1.0
2/15-7/15 XELOX & celecoxib
2/19 clean scope
11/19 clean CT
Ongoing cimetidine & other targeted supplements
Mom to a 6 & 8yo

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Rob in PA
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Re: OT had rough week

Postby Rob in PA » Mon Apr 20, 2015 10:34 am

Hopefully you are recovering (not sure what time zone you are in) and all went well with your surgery. Focus on recovery and then worry about dealing with that dumbass husband of yours. :evil:
dx 11/07 crc IIIb @ 39
Xelox/Rad/ temp colostomy
LAR/J-pouch/ temp ileo
Folfox-8
Failed reversal
2/09 liver mets; liver resect/ileo reversal
Folfiri/Avastin - 12
2/11 5 lung mets
Folfiri/Avastin 2011
SBRT 3/12
Lung met 5/13/ said NO to more chemo
SBRT 8/13
2 lung mets 5/14, VATS 8/14, NED

peanut_8
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Re: OT had rough week

Postby peanut_8 » Mon Apr 20, 2015 11:01 am

Hope the surgery went well Ronni. And hope the recovery goes smoothly.
peanut
female, diagnosed Jan 14, RC stage 2a, age 56
MSS
April 14, 28 chemo/rad with Xeloda
June 14 adjuvant Xeloda 6 rounds
currently NED

Delinda2
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Re: OT had rough week

Postby Delinda2 » Mon Apr 20, 2015 12:18 pm

Ronni, thinking of you this morning & hoping your surgery is over and all is well. Take care and let us know how you are when you feel up to it. Hugs. XXOXO, Delinda
63 yrs,wife & mom
4/14 dx colon cancer,3C,9/22 nodes
Lymphatic,venous,&perineural invasion
<1cm margin,poorly differentiated
6/14 colostomy take down
7/14 FOLFOX w/9 Nulasta shots
2/16 dx new primary of sigmoid colon
6/16 surgery-rescection on sigmoid, total hysterectomy, temp ileo, stage 4
"I AM the storm."

alphagam
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Re: OT had rough week

Postby alphagam » Mon Apr 20, 2015 12:43 pm

I'm so sorry to hear your news and I hope surgery went well this morning. Just wanted to let you know that Arizona is a community property state. Basically. That means that you are entitled to half of everything. Please call a lawyer as soon as you are able. Do not agree to anything until you talk to a lawyer!!!
Dx Feb 2010 4 cm tumor, just inside rectum
EUS stated T3 tumor
2nd opinion, need better path
Mar 2010 transanal surgery. Surgery by board certified CRS found tumor only in lining
6 exams of surg site, 3 PET, 3 scopes laterNED.
Scope in Mar2015, clean colon
Next scope/test in 3 years

JudeD59
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Re: OT had rough week

Postby JudeD59 » Mon Apr 20, 2015 1:14 pm

Hope your surgery went well and you are safely home recovering! I'm a big believer in karma, so hopefully it will bite your husband where it hurts most sometime in the near future.
56 yrs old, wife, mother to 4 daughters
RC Stage II T3N0M0 DX April 2, 2015
6 cm. mid-rectum-CEA 121
Xeloda and radiation finished 06/15/15- CEA 242
CEA right before surgery 81
LAR performed 8/12/15 Temporary ileostomy
CEA 10-21-15 1.6
PET scan 11-4-15 All clear
Port installed 11/11/15
Folfox started 11/18/15
Folfox stopped due to bad reaction
Reversal 2/17/16
CEA 2/3/16 1.7
CEA 3/31/16 1.3
CT Scan 4/12/16 All Clear
Port removed 4/21/16
CEA 5/24/17 1.4

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Icesk8tr
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Re: OT had rough week

Postby Icesk8tr » Mon Apr 20, 2015 1:28 pm

Ronni,
Sending healing thoughts your way for a quick recovery. Hoping for the best possible outcome with your husband.

Christine
Stage IV CC 2010

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MamaN
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Re: OT had rough week

Postby MamaN » Mon Apr 20, 2015 3:30 pm

Thank you everyone ! I'm home! Lots of pain! I have no family so hub took me to surgery.. And tells me he didn't love me for a long time on the car ride to my surgery. Seriously messed up ! No empathy I can't wrap my head around it! He should have told me when I was younger ! He is a piece of work! Time for me to heal ...in more ways than one !

Tear was worse than MRI was showing too some how it flapped under hip socket so it was hidden. I think I have some pins in there now too!
Dx@45 stage t3 n1b m unknown IIIB
Resected in 8/2010 rectosigmoid
5.5 tumor with 3 /26 lymph nodes
Lymph vascular invasion
Folfox sept 2010 to feb 2011
10 tx only stopped due to low wbc

Valorie
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Re: OT had rough week

Postby Valorie » Mon Apr 20, 2015 4:17 pm

Ronni - first I want to wish you a pain free speedy recovery. I am just so ticked that you have to deal with the marital issues on top of your physical ones. I truly believe in Karma for those that abuse the hearts of others - and your hub has some major bad juju coming his way. I hope he at least ends up with a boil on his ass to start. (I'm usually a very peaceful soul ).

I hope you will mend quickly Ronni - heart and body. A hug or two to you.

Valorie
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Age 53 dx 2a CC 0/21 LN Oncotypedx score: 11
Sigmoidectomy 5/8/14
MSS No lymphovasular involvement,
6/14 PET - NED, 12/14 CT NED, 7/15 CT - NED
6/14-12/9/14 Xeloda 8 cycles
2/12/15 incisional hernia repair - Boooo!

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muskokamike
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Re: OT had rough week

Postby muskokamike » Mon Apr 20, 2015 4:19 pm

Get yourself better and when you do someone will come into your life that will make you forget all about that POS.
Chin up
53M Dx rc10/31/13
WTF!
CT scan, BONE scan
MRI/T3N0M0 1 suspicious node
5 wks chemo/rad
LAR open TME 2/26/14
temp ileo
0/24 nodes pCR/pathological
Mop up Folfox (8) Mar/28-Jul/4
Aug/14 clear CT scan
8/27/14 reversal
Feb/15 clear scope
July/15 clear CT scan
Feb/16 clear CT scan
Feb/17 clear CT scan
Feb/18 clear scope
Feb/18 clear CT scan
Sep/19 clear CT scan DISCHARGED!
CEA levels 1.6 dx
1.6,1.4,1.7,2.4,2.9, 2.7 2.3 2.5 2.2 2.1 2.5 2.6 2.7
2.7 Sept 19
0-4 normal
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peanut_8
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Re: OT had rough week

Postby peanut_8 » Mon Apr 20, 2015 4:22 pm

Glad to hear you are home Ronni. I have a feeling that on top of all your soon to be ex's faults, he is a liar also. And trying his best to make you feel bad. What a jerk.

I've been doing some internet searching, and have found some stuff you may be interested in. I'll send it to you later in the week when you are feeling better. Get Better Soon Ronni. We're all pulling for you here at the CC.
peanut
female, diagnosed Jan 14, RC stage 2a, age 56
MSS
April 14, 28 chemo/rad with Xeloda
June 14 adjuvant Xeloda 6 rounds
currently NED

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MamaN
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Re: OT had rough week

Postby MamaN » Mon Apr 20, 2015 4:30 pm

Still thanking everyone I'm shaky so I have thank in one response. Not feeling so hot
Last edited by MamaN on Sat Jun 13, 2015 9:06 pm, edited 1 time in total.
Dx@45 stage t3 n1b m unknown IIIB
Resected in 8/2010 rectosigmoid
5.5 tumor with 3 /26 lymph nodes
Lymph vascular invasion
Folfox sept 2010 to feb 2011
10 tx only stopped due to low wbc


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