Hi all (especially to the newbies). I haven't posted in awhile and am more of a lurker anyhow. You can see the details of my history with this fucking disease. In December, I learned of a quick recurrence to my lungs which is not treatable with anything other than chemo. My CEA keeps rising so I'm sure we'll have to change things up soon. Anyhow, my family -- I have a husband and 2 girls (ages 3 and 5) -- just went to Hawaii and there I found some peace. I acknowledged, I mean really acknowledged for the first time, how angry and jealous I am. I write about it in my most recent blog post. And I admit I'm not jealous of the people who have never had this disease and get to live a long life. I'm jealous of the people who are Stage IV and somehow get out of it. That really tears me apart. I hate that I'm jealous and so ungracious, but I know I'm not the only one with such feelings.
I miss Belle (NW Girl) and her monthly blog posts for the Colon Club. She wrote with a beauty and insight that I cherished. We connected through our writing. I wonder what she would say to this last piece. I miss her. She was my guide through this disease, the experienced one who gave me clues about what is to come.
I vowed when I started blogging that I would be brutally honest -- no fucking sugar-coating, no pumped fists, no rah-rah-rah and all that other bullshit, no talk about hope and how we all have to be positive. I explore the darkness, walk through it, to find the light. I refuse to live in a world of delusion. Most of all, I wanted those people who didn't feel positive and hopeful and strong and all that annoying inspirational b/s the cancer community likes to shove down our throats to feel okay in their darkness; I wanted to legitimize their and my feelings about this disease.
Anyhow, this most recent brutally honest post has generated a lot of reaction so I wanted to share it here, in part in honor of our dear Belle. (My 3-year-old is also named Belle).
https://julieyipwilliams.wordpress.com/2015/04/11/827/
Julie