My mom over the past few weeks from Vectibux has had 0 energy. Shes been sleeping a lot, not eating nerly what she used to. Its become a battle to have her eat half a cup of food.
Tuesday was supposed to be 4th round. Her billirubin came back elevated, and they were concerned when i was mentioning her not eating etc. I also noticed some slight adema in her feet.
They did a direct admit, her one stated we couldn't continue treatment until she was strong enough to tolerate it and we need to get her eating and figure out why her enzymes are elevated.
The results came back, no obstruction or dilation in the liver/billary system, so they feel this is disease related.
Well wedneaday they tried to give her a sedative medication she takes at night in the morning and i chewed the nurses head off. That night my mom was addiment i sleep at home and rest.
which i hate leaving her there, but i have been lacking taking care of myself.so i tossed and turned at home, but slept. Spoke with her early in the am she told me to go back to bed, then again 3 hours later and she was totally wacky and out of it.
Spoke with the nurse who went over the meds she was given, they incorrectly gave her her night medication half of it in the morning.
I am beyond frustrated and livid. We have been to the same hospital 20 plus times its in the records.
So we wasted a whole day to get her walking to lessen the adema, and eating to get her strength up.
I reamed the dr about this and demanded a plan, and he had me feel her stomach, she's highly constipated and dehydrated from the pain meds. So his plan before giving her mironol (drug to stimulate appetite) is to clear her out, and that should helpx because if shes as backed up as he thinks she is. Its probably causing her not to be able to eat.
IVe tried for so long to hold it together to be strong, and i feel like im being destroyed watching her go through all of this. My family is bullshit, her sisters are so involved in their own lives that they don't help out, they occasionally text to ask about her and shes all that i have. My fiance does his best, he holds me and lets me cry it out and promises things will be ok. Which with this new situation, i don't know that things will be okay.
Obviously they want to get her back on treatment or some kind of treatment, i just feel like they aren't doing enough. I had to suggest having physical therapy come work with her to help her build some strength, i had to suggest mirinol a drug to help her eat.
April 4th marks her year fighting this battle. I feel as if from the get go its been uphill. Ive always recorded our onc meetings and clarified we are going aggressively and for curative intent, but at this stage in the game, i feel as tho they just told me what i wanted to hear that we were but that in reality we have just been tossed aside as palliative.
i dont have anyone else to talk to. No one else understands what this is like except for you guys here, living it, dealing with it, fighting it, or taking care of someone who is.
I dont even know what my question is or what my goal of this post is. I think i just needed to get it off of my chest and find people who listen, understand and care.
Im only 26, getting married this year in October, going through fertility treatments now in hopes my mom can experience being a grandma, and gets to walk me down the aisle. I'm completely terrified where we are at right now and what comes next. I need her.