My DH is gone

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Nodak
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My DH is gone

Postby Nodak » Sun Mar 08, 2015 1:29 pm

We went into the hospital on Monday Feb 23rd and never got to come home again. My DH was yellow with jaundice, becoming more confused and his stomach appeared swollen. We went in to the ER where he had 2 liters of fluid drained from his abdomen but it returned quickly. He became more and more confused. We made a plan to come home on hospice once he was stable but that never happened. He became more and more drowsy, eventually sleeping all day and passed away early Friday morning. I feel as if my heart is physically broken. We have had to go on, planning the funeral, greeting all our family and friends and now it is just over. I know I will eventually be grateful for the 34 years of marriage we shared.,but today I am not even able to console my children. The sadness is overwhelming. I'm sorry maybe this is too much information. I will return to the board and hopefully contribute something to help others in the future. Thank you for being here for our journey.
02/13 Stage IV cc liver KRAS +
folfox,avastin
5/13 ben brain tx
6/13 DVT /PE
09/13 Liver res
11/13 recur Folfiri w/iranotecan
1/14 lung
6/14 CEA 203
7/14 CEA 998
8/14 CEA 1126 Stivarga H F synd
9/14 CEA 1706 Xeloda w/oxilaplatin 12/14 Fail
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DarknessEmbraced
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Facebook Username: Riann Fletcher
Location: New Brunswick, Canada

Re: My DH is gone

Postby DarknessEmbraced » Sun Mar 08, 2015 1:33 pm

I'm so sorry Nodak! I extend my deepest condolences! There are no adequate words. You and your family are in my thoughts.
Diagnosed 10/28/14, age 36
Colon Resection 11/20/14, LAR (no illeo)
Stage 2a colon cancer, T3NOMO
Lymph-vascular invasion undetermined
0/22 lymph nodes
No chemo, no radiation
Clear Colonoscopy 04/29/15
NED 10/20/15
Ischemic Colitis 01/21/16
NED 11/10/16
CT Scan moved up due to high CEA 08/21/17
NED 09/25/17
NED 12/21/18
Clear colonoscopy 09/23/19
Clear 5 year scans 11/21/19- Considered cured! :)
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orcasres
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Joined: Mon Jul 01, 2013 10:23 pm
Location: Orcas Island, WA

Re: My DH is gone

Postby orcasres » Sun Mar 08, 2015 1:37 pm

So sorry for your loss. Take advantage of the support and activity taking place around you; let family and friends help at such a devastating time. We are all thinking of you. Lois
63 yo F
Colon resection Sept. 2010
pT3N0M0 Stage 2A
Medullary Tumor 6.5cm long
Lymphovascular invasion
Lynch negative
12 FOLFOX 11/2010 to 5/2011 8 w/Oxi
NED so far
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purplekangaroo
Posts: 88
Joined: Tue Feb 24, 2015 6:08 am
Location: England

Re: My DH is gone

Postby purplekangaroo » Sun Mar 08, 2015 1:59 pm

So sorry to hear of your husbands passing. You and your family are in my thoughts.
LAR 29/10/13
Leak, temp ileo 5/11/13
Stage 3cc aged 31 4\20 nodes
6 months xelox 24/12/13
1 clear CT 5/7/14
Genetic test negative for lynch
Ileo reversed 18/11/14
Colonoscopy 6/2/15 normal
Second CT 6/2/15 ??
Trying to resume some sort of normality??
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ANDRETEXAS
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Joined: Fri Feb 14, 2014 11:01 am
Location: Austin, Texas (University of Tennessee alumnus)

Re: My DH is gone

Postby ANDRETEXAS » Sun Mar 08, 2015 2:48 pm

Please accept my sincere condolences on your husband's passing. I pray that you and your family can find peace in the lives you enjoyed together. Andre
2/10/14 - Colon resect
2/13 - DX- Stage IIIb
6 of 18 lymph nodes cancerous
3/7 - Port placed
3/11 - FOLFOX (12 rds w/full oxi)
8/14 - Chemo finish
8/25 - CT- Inc
9/5 - clean PET
12/10- clean CT

3/2/15 - Clean colonoscopy & port removed
3/4 - clean CT
9/21- clean CT

3/23/16 - clean CT

2/22/17- clean CT

3/21/18 - clean CT
4/1 - clean colonoscopy

3/11/19 - clean CT
9/23 - Five-year release - Annual visits now !

4/13/23 - clean colonoscopy

ONE DAY AT A TIME !
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canadiandaughter
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Joined: Sun Aug 17, 2014 11:19 am

Re: My DH is gone

Postby canadiandaughter » Sun Mar 08, 2015 3:00 pm

So sorry about your husband. You shouldn't feel guilty about not being able to console your children. Your grief will be very different from theirs and you all need to help each other. Take care of yourself.
DD to 81 year old father
dx 24/07/14 iv cc mets liver/lung
folifiri started 19/07/14
shrinkage of all mets
growth in the liver,started folfox/avastin 80% 13/01/16
reduced to 70% due to side effects 27/01/16
First scan on folfox shows shrinkage in lungs, but liver just stable
6 rounds of vectibix-fail. 3cm growth and new spots showing Waiting for panel recommendations
At peace January 8, 2017
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jillbugs4110
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Joined: Thu Jul 31, 2014 3:36 pm

Re: My DH is gone

Postby jillbugs4110 » Sun Mar 08, 2015 3:07 pm

So sorry for your loss
Live One Day At A Time
I Abandon myself to God
46 6 yo.....9yo...
stage 1V liver mets :-(
my one prayer to got to sustain me to raise my two babies this is my only wish then take me out if needed.
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Stanfordmom
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Joined: Wed May 14, 2014 1:32 am

Re: My DH is gone

Postby Stanfordmom » Sun Mar 08, 2015 3:30 pm

I am so sorry and please accept my deepest condolences.

Hope your two's loving memories will carry you through your difficult grief. Your family will be in my prayers!
Sha
DX 4/2/2014 at 44, stage 4, mets liver and ovaries
Mom to 2 boys
Three surgeries, HAI pump and lots of chemo
fighting!
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peanut_8
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Re: My DH is gone

Postby peanut_8 » Sun Mar 08, 2015 4:24 pm

Nodak, I'm very sorry for your loss.
female, diagnosed Jan 14, RC stage 2a, age 56
MSS
April 14, 28 chemo/rad with Xeloda
June 14 adjuvant Xeloda 6 rounds
currently NED
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Dorat
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Joined: Sat Apr 05, 2014 8:28 pm
Location: Bradenton, florida

Re: My DH is gone

Postby Dorat » Sun Mar 08, 2015 4:40 pm

I am so sorry for your loss, I know how you are feeling. I lost my husband 4 years ago.
37yr Mother of 4 girls and 1 boy
Dx 1-22-2014
Cc T2N2bM0 (37/47 LN)
Surgery 2-6-2014
Folfox for 6 months
Clean scan 6-10-2014
Finished chemo 8-18-14
Clean scan 8-25-14
Clean colonoscopy 2-26-15
Clean scan 3-9-2015 NED
Port Out 4-3-2015
Clean scan 9-9-2015 NED
Clean scan 2-28-2017 NED 8)
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Lee
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Re: My DH is gone

Postby Lee » Sun Mar 08, 2015 5:24 pm

I am so sorry for your loss.

One day at a time, one step at a time.

Lee
rectal cancer - April 2004
46 yrs old at diagnoses
stage III C - 6/13 lymph positive
radiation - 6 weeks
surgery - August 2004/hernia repair 2014
permanent colostomy
chemo - FOLFOX
NED - 16 years and counting!
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Nik Colon

Re: My DH is gone

Postby Nik Colon » Sun Mar 08, 2015 5:27 pm

I am so sorry. (((hugs)))
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Teddi
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Re: My DH is gone

Postby Teddi » Sun Mar 08, 2015 6:00 pm

I am so sorry for your heartbreaking loss.

Teddi
47 at diagnosis
Colonoscopy, biopsy, CT, PET 6/14
Rectal cancer (tentatively) Stage III-b, MSS
Xeloda and radiation 25x finished 8/14
FOLFOX 5 cycles
Surgery 1/23/14 ~ T1N0MX ~ temp illeostomy
FOLFOX 3 cycles = total of 8
Illeostomy reversal 4/8/15
Clean scans x2, clear colonoscopy 9/15
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MamaN
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Re: My DH is gone

Postby MamaN » Sun Mar 08, 2015 6:14 pm

So sorry for your loss.
Dx@45 stage t3 n1b m unknown IIIB
Resected in 8/2010 rectosigmoid
5.5 tumor with 3 /26 lymph nodes
Lymph vascular invasion
Folfox sept 2010 to feb 2011
10 tx only stopped due to low wbc
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DBF
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Location: New York

Re: My DH is gone

Postby DBF » Sun Mar 08, 2015 6:32 pm

I'm so sorry for your loss.
6/13 Dx @ 29 Wks pregnant, 42 yo
Adenocarcinoma, mucinous
7/13 C-sec/col resec/part. hysterectomy
8/13 Pulm embolism
8/13 Spread to liver
9/13 Liver resection
FOLFOX
CEA UP
ADAPT: Xeloda/Celebrex
2/14 oopherectomy
10/15 obstruction surg
10/17 Scar tissue removal/vsg surg
2019: NED :)
2021: NED :D
2022: NED :)
Mom to 3 boys: 24, 13 & 9
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