The Grim Reaper took another swipe at me !!

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Re: The Grim Reaper took another swipe at me !!

Postby WifeOfMike » Thu Aug 03, 2017 1:21 pm

Diane,

I speak to my hubby every day.... especially when I drive the coast where he is laid to rest. Many occasions I see dolphins dashing out of the waves (which he adored), a seagull flying overhead, I one time saw a swarm of 100+ butterflies on my property dancing in our lantana.

I feel his presence, I know he watches over us. I am not afraid of the signs... it makes me smile. Your Frenchie (Ron) had a wild since of humor. I'm sure you may get a few off the wall visits. Say HI for me

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Re: The Grim Reaper took another swipe at me !!

Postby Frenchie's Wife » Sat Aug 12, 2017 3:01 pm

I heard on the radio today some famous sports coach (not sure what sport it was), passed away. He had stage 4 colon cancer which was diagnosed in 2014. This makes me so grateful to have had Ron for so long, as I don't know how many times over the years he was told he was a medical miracle for still being here with us.

I believe it was his positive attitude over his cancer, his goal setting (reaching a summer, or a certain date), and I do believe his life long marijuana smoking gave me more time with this wonderful man.

When we got engaged, six months after we met, he promised me 25 years haha. Well 17 years and 3 months is not bad considering what we have gone through together. I cherish each and every day....well may not every day. There were those days when he was on the dex that drove everyone crazy, those I would rather forget. :shock:

Can't believe it has been a month already since I last saw and spoke with him. My weekend off so I have been busy today with housework,BUTT now I am working on stuff on the computer for the celebration next month. The house is so quite and that is when I notice it the most. I got a picture framed and put it on the mantle, and I look at it everyday. I give me comfort most day.

Other than my two boys, I have not family, Ron's family was mine as as long as he was alive. Once the celebration is done, I am not sure how much contact they will have with me. Family is funny like that.
Caregiver to DH 59 yr, male, Stage IV at Dx
Dx Sept 2009
Liver,bladder mets, 5 surgeries
Lots of chemo
Inoperable lung mets nov 2013
Stopped all treatments in February 2014 due to QOL issues
I am in God's hands now !!
Feb 2015 - too many new mets to count !
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Re: The Grim Reaper took another swipe at me !!

Postby muskokamike » Sat Aug 12, 2017 3:11 pm

Bryan Murray was a lifelong hockey guy. Always a class act and since his dx became a real advocate for getting colonoscopies.


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temp ileo
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Re: The Grim Reaper took another swipe at me !!

Postby canadiandaughter » Sat Aug 12, 2017 6:17 pm

Hugs Diane! I hope the family keeps in touch with you. You were a big part of their dads life, thus their lives! That being said, I know from personal experience that a death can really do a number on a family. You see peoples true colors, or maybe you just take off the blinders you have been wearing for years. I guess maybe the one that held you all together being gone changes things. Enjoy the memories as you put together the celebration to honor an amazing man! He was truly a miracle in the medical world. Sometimes I think that people can somehow get through things when they have a goal. I know one of my dads last appts he told the doctor he wanted to make it to my daughters wedding. He did that, then went down hill fast. Just take things one day at a time! I know we have good and bad days. The weirdest things will set us off. Now that is has been 7 months, the bad days are fewer, but it seems all the firsts are extremly hard.
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Re: The Grim Reaper took another swipe at me !!

Postby Lee » Sat Aug 12, 2017 6:38 pm

Frenchie wrote:Other than my two boys, I have not family, Ron's family was mine as as long as he was alive. Once the celebration is done, I am not sure how much contact they will have with me. Family is funny like that.


Hopefully more than you think, sometimes it's just take being a 2 way street.

You continue to be in my thoughts and prayers. I hope you find comfort in the celebration of Ron's life. As canadiandaughter posted, Ron was an amazing man,

(((Diane)))

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Re: The Grim Reaper took another swipe at me !!

Postby Sharon Brent » Sun Aug 13, 2017 2:26 pm

Hi Diane,

It's very true that after death the true colours of their family truly shines through, no more pretending and fake pretentences.

Myself I feel that after my husbands death that my true battle begun, and I'm still having to fight each day, with many things, feelings, memories and some Dumb Arse people, but as they say life goes on.

I hope you continue to get the support you need and want to make it through the coming days, weeks, months and even years.

You continue to be in my Prayers, may Gods Blessings and Strength continue to be with you always

Love Piyagarn
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Re: The Grim Reaper took another swipe at me !!

Postby bitchslapped » Wed Aug 16, 2017 6:11 pm

Frenchie wrote:Can't believe it has been a month already since I last saw and spoke with him. My weekend off so I have been busy today with housework,BUTT now I am working on stuff on the computer for the celebration next month. The house is so quite and that is when I notice it the most. I got a picture framed and put it on the mantle, and I look at it everyday. I give me comfort most day.

Other than my two boys, I have not family, Ron's family was mine as as long as he was alive. Once the celebration is done, I am not sure how much contact they will have with me. Family is funny like that.


Family dynamics can be complex. Add in the factor of a blended family = more complexity. I hope they do check in w/you from time to time to see how you're coming along + hoping you check in w/them to see how they & the grandkids are doing.

If you are interested in posting a eulogy from Ron's Celebration Of Life, or a link to it, I'm sure some of us would very much like to be included for reading. I remember Ron mentioning two sons that did not live nearby & grandkids, but do not remember him mentioning a daughter, though he may have. Think I remember him mentioning you had a couple of boys.

Glad the framed picture brings some degree of comfort to you. Do you still have the small dog, Peanut? Funny I should remember that, but in my neighborhood we sometimes know people by their dogs!

Best Wishes to you, Diane, during this sad time & in planning Ron's Memorial.
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Re: The Grim Reaper took another swipe at me !!

Postby Frenchie's Wife » Wed Aug 16, 2017 10:57 pm

bitchslapped wrote:
Frenchie wrote:
Do you still have the small dog, Peanut? Funny I should remember that, but in my neighborhood we sometimes know people by their dogs!

Best Wishes to you, Diane, during this sad time & in planning Ron's Memorial.
BS


I was never fond of his small dog, Peanut, and told him I would find him a good him after he passed. Well his brother was interested in Peanut and took him a few times out to the campground before Ron passed away when Ron was in the hospital. I have my own dog, Max, and Peanut does no get along well with him for some reason.

Peanut has always slept with me and Max when Ron is not home, which is fine BUTT the day after Ron passed I could not bare to have Peanut sleep with me. It was to hard for me. Ron's brother was going up north for a few days which then turned into going back east for a few months and I told him if he was serious about owning Peanut then he had to take him now.

Yves, my brother in law, also has a pit bull, The pit and Peanut are the best of buddies, go figure.
Caregiver to DH 59 yr, male, Stage IV at Dx
Dx Sept 2009
Liver,bladder mets, 5 surgeries
Lots of chemo
Inoperable lung mets nov 2013
Stopped all treatments in February 2014 due to QOL issues
I am in God's hands now !!
Feb 2015 - too many new mets to count !
At peace July 9, 2017


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