How is your sex life now

[KWT]

I also get it when I can but I find my self asteem has been greatly effected its hard to feel sexy after being butchered but I try.....

Trust me, I know the feeling. Having a child and horrible stretch marks, huge tummy tuck scar and still many stretch marks, other scars and getting more soon! Yay!

Hell, that's just normal wear and tear we all have a little of that

Except me of course

[Nik Colon]

I also get it when I can but I find my self asteem has been greatly effected its hard to feel sexy after being butchered but I try.....

Trust me, I know the feeling. Having a child and horrible stretch marks, huge tummy tuck scar and still many stretch marks, other scars and getting more soon! Yay!

Hell, that's just normal wear and tear we all have a little of that

Except me of course

Lol...of course!

[Kelly M]

I feel like Jill and some of the others. I am self conscious and feel gross having so many scars and this stupid bag. I even bought some sexy cover ups. It's been a rough year. I hope to get back to normal sometime soon.
Best of luck!

[MamaN]

What sex?! Lol ! None here.

[ziggymonster]

Thanks to my advanced prostate cancer I've been chemically castrated for about 5 years. You know what that does to your libido !!!!! I am very fortunate my wonderful girlfriend of 24 years is ok with it, says would rather have me alive....I am 68 and we did have some rockin times when younger. I do miss it but love my GF. Cancer gets in the way of so much.

[Nik Colon]

I would take true love over sex any day

[MamaN]

I Agree sometimes just cuddling and hold hands and being there for each other ,can mean so much more!

[Mastan]

APR surgery wrecked that 4 yrs ago. Chemo just adds insult to injury. But am I still breathing for the time being.

[tchan8888]

I still have my drive and it is very strong. If I ever lose it, which I am praying that I don't, just let me go right then.

Blessings,

Tom

[Cathie]

I have a thought...if it were not you but your spouse how would you feel about them. Would you want them to know you loved them no matter what. Before I got cancer I was "on and off' dating this one guy for a looong time. Because I hda a reversal I asked him how he would feel if I had to have the ostomy again....well...he paused and say "I don't know."....wrong answer buddy. I don't see him anymore.

Cathie

[Rob in PA]

Mine was ok. Every other week was about normal for us, when on chemo. I find the more you do it, the more you want to do it. If you stop....everything shuts down.

cb

Dear Cb,
Can you please tell my wife that?!

Starving in pa

[skypup]

Any Downton watchers? Remember how the Duchess said, "What is a weekend?" So, what is a sex life???

[PaulC]

What sex life.......?

[Voxx66]

Not being married, I have never had as much sex in my life as I have had in the last few years. I've discussed it before but I think the confidence born of just not caring about being rejected in the face of cancer does wonders. However - I do not see any sex happening while I am on Folfiri. I'm just too tired.

[kellywin]

Honestly I didn't have much drive to begin with, I kept hearing 40 was the "number" for women. I patiently waited and instead of increased sex drive when I turned 40 I got effing rectal cancer. What a crap shoot. I don't know if it was the radiation, chemo or the forced menopause, but even if it didn't hurt like an SOB (thanks menopause = think Kenny's flouresent light bulb example), I have basically no desire. And men just don't "get" the whole cuddle/caring thing, which would would go a long way with me. I'd be willing to take the flourescent light bulb in exchange for a bit of just being "close".