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rest in peace ashley griffitts lamb.

Postby stephenlamb » Fri Jan 23, 2015 9:51 am

Well I use to live on this sight for the first couple yrs of diagnosis. I haven't been on the last nine months because there is no need for me to read about what I was I've been gone and focusing all my energy on my beloved wife.
I would like to thank the colon club for all it has done for me and my wife. I know for a fact without this place her journey wouldn't have been near as long or as manageable as it was. To all the peeps juliej pturley brownbagget and bev and many more some who r gone now. Thank you from the bottom of my heart!
Ashley was my best friend my lover my constant companion and now she gone. When Ashley was diagnosed she thumbed her nose stuck out her tongue and went skydiving. She never would let this disease every stop her from seeing the beauty n each day. Even in death she taught me how to live. To pull my pants up stop being a pussy and live like she did( her words)!!!!! None of us know our time and we can sit around thinking about it or start living!!! I'm so thankful to have a wife who left me with the tools to live on as she would have wanted.(I went skydiving 3days after she passed). Things I have decided I will not let her down! I will not let this disease steal my joy of life!
I will leave with the quote that best sums up her life that was read at her funeral.
far better is it to dare mighty things, to win glorious triumphs, even though checkered by failure....
than to rank with those poor spirits who neither enjoy nor suffer much, because the live in the grey twilight that knows not victory or defeat. T.d. roosevelt.
this is how I will live my life to honor you my love. You skydiving, whitewater paddled, caver little adventurer I miss you! you will always b able to look down on this earth and I'll b doing something to make u smile. Sweet dreams till sunbeams find you... Sweet dreams to leave all troubles behind you. Thanks so much colon club
Wife age 29 dx 7/5/12 stage 4
Mets liver ovary
Hai pump Feb15 2013 folfiri start
1st stage liver resection Aug 13
2nd stage liver Dec 10 ned just 5fu
3/14 peritoneal met folriri/erb

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Postby CM35 » Fri Jan 23, 2015 10:06 am

Your wife sounds like an amazing person, the kind we should all strive to be like. I am so sad for your loss. No words, just hope you are able to find peace... Nothing about this is right, I hate cancer...

stg IV 4/2013 @34 - liver, ovary/peritoneum
Lots of chemo, surgery and good luck - still doing well 03/2016...

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Postby Valorie » Fri Jan 23, 2015 10:10 am

Stephen - First, I am so very sorry for the loss of your beloved Ashley. I thank you for the inspirational words that we all should take to heart whether we are cancer patient or caregiver. You truly honor Ashley by living the way she would have wanted to. A big heartfelt hug to you.

Age 53 dx 2a CC 0/21 LN Oncotypedx score: 11
Sigmoidectomy 5/8/14
MSS No lymphovasular involvement,
6/14 PET - NED, 12/14 CT NED, 7/15 CT - NED
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Postby skypup » Fri Jan 23, 2015 10:23 am

Stephen, I remember your posts about your life-loving Ashley. They inspired me then and you inspire me now. Thank you. I can just picture Ashley skydiving with the Angels, flying along with you as you grab onto a full life here below. I am so sorry for your loss.

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Postby jdepp » Fri Jan 23, 2015 10:27 am


I'm sorry you lost Ashley. She will always be with you. Take care, and may you never need the information from a cancer forum again.
Colon dx 08 @ 41 Poorly diff. 12+ liver mets, 19/28 LN
Colon rsx /14 x Folfox-Erbitux 08-09
PVE / Liver rsx 09
Lung & LN mets 10
Folfiri, Xeloda, Avastin 10-13
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Postby Bev G » Fri Jan 23, 2015 10:30 am

Stephen, I am so sorry for your loss of Ashley, although it's clear you will live your life now with her spirit melded with your own. You have been an amazing, loving husband---it's so clear from every post you wrote. I know your grief must be immense, but am glad to hear how you have responded to the influence she had on your life. Thank you for the beautiful, inspirational tribute you posted. I wish you well with all my heart.



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12/09 Stage IV 2/22 nodes + liver met, colon resec
3 tx FOLFIRI, liver resec 4/10
9/10 6 mos off chemo, Neg PET&CTC CEA nl
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Postby ams5796 » Fri Jan 23, 2015 10:32 am


Ashley seemed very special. Thank you for sharing her life with us.

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2/10 lung mets
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2/14 SBRT
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Postby mom_2_3 » Fri Jan 23, 2015 10:39 am


Your post was a testament to the love you and Ashley shared. I went back to the photos you posted and I was so happy to be reminded of all the living you did, especially while she was in treatment. I know she will be looking down on you from Heaven.

My most sincere condolences,
CC discovered during c-section (11/4/08)
Diagnosed Stage IV 11/10/08 -- Happy 39th Birthday! 5 bilobar liver mets
02/09: Colectomy, liver resection, HAI pump implanted, 7 of 42 nodes
7 months of FUDR and 5FU ended 11/2/09
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Postby DarknessEmbraced » Fri Jan 23, 2015 10:54 am

Your loving tribute to Ashley is very special! You honor her in all that you do! I am so sorry for your loss, words don't seem to be enough! Ashley sounds like an amazing woman! I'm so glad that both of you found comfort and information on this site!
Diagnosed 10/28/14, age 36
Colon Resection 11/20/14, LAR (no illeo)
Stage 2a colon cancer, T3NOMO
Lymph-vascular invasion undetermined
0/22 lymph nodes
No chemo, no radiation
Clear Colonoscopy 04/29/15
NED 10/20/15
Ischemic Colitis 01/21/16
NED 11/10/16
CT Scan moved up due to high CEA 08/21/17
NED 09/25/17
NED 12/21/18
Clear colonoscopy 09/23/19
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Postby Rob in PA » Fri Jan 23, 2015 11:51 am

My deepest sympathies to you and your family. Rest in peace Ashley, and fly with the angels.

Loved the quotes.

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dx 11/07 crc IIIb @ 39
Xelox/Rad/ temp colostomy
LAR/J-pouch/ temp ileo
Failed reversal
2/09 liver mets; liver resect/ileo reversal
Folfiri/Avastin - 12
2/11 5 lung mets
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Postby pollo65 » Fri Jan 23, 2015 12:40 pm

A very special husband to a very special wife. I believe her spirit and drive will will guide your life.
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r. hemi-colectomy 1/7/09
32Ln biopsied, 28 positive
met to aorta
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Postby stephenlamb » Fri Jan 23, 2015 12:46 pm

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Mets liver ovary
Hai pump Feb15 2013 folfiri start
1st stage liver resection Aug 13
2nd stage liver Dec 10 ned just 5fu
3/14 peritoneal met folriri/erb

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Postby ziggymonster » Fri Jan 23, 2015 12:47 pm

Thank you for sharing, I am sorry for your loss, Ashley sounds like an amazing your life
DX advanced prostate cancer 2002
2014 still fighting mPca , failed surgery, radiation, hormone
DX Stage IIIa Rectal Cancer 12/12 1 of 12 nodes +
LAR permanent colostomy 1/13
Folfox 2/13 - 7/13 clear CT CEA 1.2
7/14 liver met chemo the resect in Oct
6/15 2 pos lung mets watching for now

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Postby BrownBagger » Fri Jan 23, 2015 1:10 pm

I'm honored to have met you both, Stephen. My sincere condolences and best wishes for you moving forward.
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Dx: 3/09, Stage 4 RC
Recurrences: (ongoing, lung, bronchial cavity, ribs)
Major Ops: 6/ RFA: 3 /bronchoscopies: 8
Pelvic radiation: 5 wks. Bronchial radiation—brachytheray: 3 treatments
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Postby juliej » Fri Jan 23, 2015 2:28 pm

Stephen, for weeks now I've been thinking about Ashley first thing when I wake up every morning and last thing before I go to bed. Now I sit here with tears in my eyes as I read the news. I am so, so sorry. I will never forget her. A strong woman is not only a woman who keeps fighting, but a woman who decides how she is going to live her life, whatever time she has left, as she wishes. Sometimes you take the cards you're dealt and you make the best hand you can and just go all in. That was Ashley to a tee. She gave us all some priceless lessons about life and the art of living. Despite having been cut far, far too short, her life was a thing of far greater beauty and grace and spirit than most people manage in whatever time they've been given.

I know this is a small thing compared to your grief, but there are so many ways we disseminate parts of ourselves into others’ lives and have no idea that they remain. I will always remember the video of Ashley skydiving. I've told so many people about it and they, in turn, have told so many others. And I will always remember the love between the two of you. She will live on in my memory and my heart forever. And YES, go live your life with joy as Ashley wanted you to do! And on every adventure you will feel her presence. I am expending buckets of peace and strength in your direction in hopes that somehow it will reach you.

Stage IVb, liver/lung mets 8/4/2010
Xelox+Avastin 8/18/10 to 10/21/2011
LAR, liver resec, HAI pump 11/2011
Adjuvant Irinotecan + FUDR
Double lung surgery + ileo reversal 2/2012
Adjuvant FUDR + Xeloda
VATS rt. lung 12/2012 - benign granuloma!
VATS left lung 11/2013
NED 11/22/13 to 12/18/2019, CEA<1

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