My Husband Died

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Re: My Husband Died

Postby Moon » Mon Dec 01, 2014 2:24 am

I am sorry tonhear that. I hope you and your children will have a good time in Nigeria.
nov. 2011 RC Stage 3
dec. 2011 lap. rectumresection, temp. ileo.
jan.-june 2012 FLOX
aug. 2012 ileo. rev.
jan, sept 2013 surg. for livermet
june 2014 local recurrence + PC, FOFIRI/Avastin june-dec. break
june 2015 surg. for colon blockage

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Re: My Husband Died

Postby bitchslapped » Mon Dec 01, 2014 3:52 am

Sharon, I had noticed your absence from the forum as of late & figured you were busy taking care of DH & kids @ home. Perhaps a change of scenery in Nigeria, spending time with family will help you in coping, especially w/the children after DH's service . There are so many things to think about & handle @ a time like this through great pain. Am glad you have friends to provide much needed support. I hope you do check in w/us when the opportunity presents itself. Hopefully soon you will find the right time to tell the difficult.

My sympathies to you and your family

DSS,35YO,unresect mCRC DX 7/'14,lvr,LN,peri,rib
FOLFOX+Avstn 4 Rnds d/c 10/'14
Stent 9/'14
FOLFIRI+Avstn 10/'14
Gone From My Sight 2/20/15
Me:garden variety polyps + precancerous polyp, diverticulitis
Carergver x2 DH,DM dbl occupancy,'03-'10
DH dx 47YO mCRC,'04-'07 fried x HAI
DM dx CC 85YO,CC,CHF,stroke,dementia,aphasia

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Re: My Husband Died

Postby singingholly » Mon Dec 01, 2014 4:31 am

Another victim... this war has no mercy.
Stay strong...
A hug
Dec2011 sigm IIIst res T3N1(2/18)M0 Xelox
Oct2012 5liv.mets Dec 2012 liv.res
Jan2013 1liv.met Folfiri+avastin
Jul2013 liv.res Folfiri+/av
Feb2014 10+2lu.mets & 1abd node Folfoxiri+SBRT
Sep2014 Res rx l. BUT spot on diaph:SBRT
Dec2014 3+6lu.mets.Immuno

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Re: My Husband Died

Postby Stanfordmom » Mon Dec 01, 2014 4:49 am

I am so saddened by your loss. The deepest condolence to you.

Add a fellow mother, I wish you find peace and strength in taking care of your children, and spend a lot of time with them this Holiday season

Love to you!!
DX 4/2/2014 at 44, stage 4, mets liver and ovaries
Mom to 2 boys
Three surgeries, HAI pump and lots of chemo

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Re: My Husband Died

Postby Marian1961 » Mon Dec 01, 2014 7:30 am

I'm so sorry you have lost your beloved husband and your children their beloved father. I hope the coming days will offer some respite and peace for you all.
Caregiver 53 brother
Dx 09/13 stage iv, met liver
Emergency stoma
? Chemo 09/30

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Re: My Husband Died

Postby alphagam » Mon Dec 01, 2014 8:10 am


You have my deepest condolences. I can't even imagine what you are going through.

Dx Feb 2010 4 cm tumor, just inside rectum
EUS stated T3 tumor
2nd opinion, need better path
Mar 2010 transanal surgery. Surgery by board certified CRS found tumor only in lining
6 exams of surg site, 3 PET, 3 scopes laterNED.
Scope in Mar2015, clean colon
Next scope/test in 3 years

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Re: My Husband Died

Postby Teddi » Mon Dec 01, 2014 11:57 am


My condolences on the passing of your husband. I pray that time will bring you peace, and your faith and family will bring you comfort.

47 at diagnosis
Colonoscopy, biopsy, CT, PET 6/14
Rectal cancer (tentatively) Stage III-b, MSS
Xeloda and radiation 25x finished 8/14
FOLFOX 5 cycles
Surgery 1/23/14 ~ T1N0MX ~ temp illeostomy
FOLFOX 3 cycles = total of 8
Illeostomy reversal 4/8/15
Clean scans x2, clear colonoscopy 9/15

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Re: My Husband Died

Postby skypup » Mon Dec 01, 2014 12:28 pm

I'm so very sorry, Sharon. Thank you for letting us know. May you find joy in all your good memories.

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Re: My Husband Died

Postby ziggymonster » Mon Dec 01, 2014 12:55 pm

Sharon, I am so sorry to hear the news. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your children . You were an excellent caregiver....
DX advanced prostate cancer 2002
2014 still fighting mPca , failed surgery, radiation, hormone
DX Stage IIIa Rectal Cancer 12/12 1 of 12 nodes +
LAR permanent colostomy 1/13
Folfox 2/13 - 7/13 clear CT CEA 1.2
7/14 liver met chemo the resect in Oct
6/15 2 pos lung mets watching for now

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Re: My Husband Died

Postby KWT » Mon Dec 01, 2014 1:11 pm

I'm very sorry for your loss.

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Re: My Husband Died

Postby canadiandaughter » Mon Dec 01, 2014 1:34 pm

So sorry to hear this Sharon. I hope and pray that you and the children can some how find the strength to carry on. How nice that you were able to have him home for a few days and I am sure you did an amazing job of taking care of him. You found strength from your faith to help you through that and I am praying your strong faith will help you in the days, weeks, months and years to come. I hope your trip to Nigeria will help you to regroup and come up with a plan for you and the kids. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.
DD to 81 year old father
dx 24/07/14 iv cc mets liver/lung
folifiri started 19/07/14
shrinkage of all mets
growth in the liver,started folfox/avastin 80% 13/01/16
reduced to 70% due to side effects 27/01/16
First scan on folfox shows shrinkage in lungs, but liver just stable
6 rounds of vectibix-fail. 3cm growth and new spots showing Waiting for panel recommendations
At peace January 8, 2017

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Re: My Husband Died

Postby AngelaN » Mon Dec 01, 2014 9:42 pm

Thoughts and prayers
DH diagnosed with Stage 4 CRC Nov 2013
11 tx Folfox/Avastin; LAR/liver resection/introp RF of liver - May 2014
3 treatments FOLFIRI
Lung resection - Sept 2014
FOLFIRI + Avastin x 10 treatments
Avastin+5FU q3 weeks x 4
SBRT x 1 lung met
RFA for remaining 3 in Oct and Nov
SBRT for liver met Jan 16
lung mets growing
Enrolled in NIH TIL trial Oct 16
XRT for lung met 12/16
Cells didnt grow for TIL trial Feb 17
Waiting for NCT03085914 at Penn

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Re: My Husband Died

Postby WifeOfMike » Tue Dec 02, 2014 12:07 am


I am sorry to hear of the loss of your dear husband. I am glad you were able to take him home for his last days
I believe this was best for your entire family, as he was surrounded by the most important people in his life- you and the children
I hope taking him home to Nigeria gives you some Peace and comfort. I am thinking of you and your young babies during this very difficult time

Blessings on you and your babies, and may your dear husband rest in Peace for Eternity
Bad Ass WIFE
Hubs: CRC IVA,T3, N0, M1A
Resect/LN Mets 10/12
Folfox4/Avastin 11/12-5/13
Folfiri/Erbitux 6/13-10/13
Stivarga 12/13-4/14
Trial 4/14-/14
Trial 8/14-11/14
HOME Hospice 11/17/14
Guardian Angel 1/1/15

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Re: My Husband Died

Postby Kathleen808 » Tue Dec 02, 2014 1:20 am

I am so very sorry Sharon. My heart breaks for you and your kids. Love and prayers sent for you.

DH 1/09 3c 51yr rsct
Folfx 3/09
1 l nd 9/09 Flfri Avstn
PET clr 6/10
Folfri Avstn 7/10
ND 10/10
1/11 lng mets Flfri Avastn
ND 2/12
9/12 Flfri Avastn
10/12 grwth lng mts Erbtx Avstn Irintcn
1/13 stabl
9/13 grwth
8/16/14 passed into eternal peace

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Re: My Husband Died

Postby Bev G » Tue Dec 02, 2014 3:56 am

Dear Sharon,

With your other friends here, I am so sorry for your loss. Everything must seem very surreal right now. I hope the trip to Nigeria will bring you some peace, and the opportunity to let the children know what happened, so you can all go through this together. I wish you peace.

58 yo Type1 DM 48 years
12/09 Stage IV 2/22 nodes + liver met, colon resec
3 tx FOLFIRI, liver resec 4/10
9/10 6 mos off chemo, Neg PET&CTC CEA nl
2/11 finished total 10 rounds chemo

9/13 ^17th clean PET/CT NED for now

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