Postby bitchslapped » Fri Oct 24, 2014 7:13 pm
I caution you from expecting to be spoon fed from every person you come in contact with for fear of alienating your mother's care providers. Make those questions count. See the bigger picture . Make sure your questions will prove productive for the benefit of your mother, not a means of stress management for you. Take ownership of your own stress. Do not make your mother's cancer about you. Relinquish the need for control; turn it around into a supportive role in this cancer journey. Trust in the doctors until they prove otherwise. You have no choice.
In addition the following link may prove a helpful resource for you:[/color]
http://www.asco.org/With all sincerity I have to present to you that your questions are not about your mother, meatie. They are about you & your ability in addressing the obvious high degree of anxiety displayed in coping with your mother's disease. Also would like to take this opportunity to remind you that in your mother's oncologist's clinic, they are required to provide information on where to find counseling services. Also at the top of the board on this site is a "sticky" thread on where to find counseling & support services across the country. We are not qualified here to address all of the issues you bring forth with apparent extreme anxiety, though many of us have tried, it is beyond the scope of this forum IMHO when counseling is clearly in order. I believe that because most of the questions you pose are easily found in the search function that apparently you hesitate to use; I'm thinking you just need people to talk to & would benefit from one on one and/or group counseling. No shame in that. Do it for your parents.
It is disrespectful to the good folks on this forum to repeatedly ask similar questions that you have not taken the time to research, that are clearly on this site compiled from its many members over time to benefit members & nonmembers. If after doing some research, you find your question has not been addressed, then there are many who can try to help, as many already have out of the goodness of their hearts. Please acknowledge to yourself that the best help for your mother may be through helping yourself first. Your mother is not "cancer on a stick" and you are not helping her,
though you may think you are; you are not. Your stress is her stress. She doesn't need your stress right now.
Though we may be interested in how your mother is doing in the months ahead, I am most interested in hearing how you have managed to improve the apparent paranoia in relation to your mother's condition. At least that is my hope for you. Your mother will surely benefit by your progress in this area. I hope your next posting will be that you have sought out counseling for stress management & that you are coping much better.
Respectfully submitted by
bitchslapped
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