Postby bitchslapped » Fri Sep 19, 2014 12:57 pm
It is my understanding that pancreatic cancer is one of the most, if not the most painful of cancers. Your friend may be on high doses of pain killers, if that will even touch it.
http://dying.about.com/od/thedyingprocess/a/process.htm I have posted this link so you can better educate yourself on the process of dying. I have the booklet having been through this process twice with loved ones. It should help you understand that your friend may be partly in this world, partly out, either due to the meds, or the "process"' most likely both. His body is very busy right now to think too much of others, if at all. Most likely has nothing to do with you. Would be nice if his family would provide you with occasional updates, but they also are dealing with a lot as well.
As far as survivor's guilt, that is as vast as the ocean. Continue to send
occasional texts to your friend or to his family : "Just thinking about you guys; sending prayers", or something to that effect. Expect no response, only lending support. In that vain, you might begin to accept nothing in return, because he just doesn't have it go give. It is his walk...a very personal walk. As a friend it would be difficult, I can see that; just remember the good times. Hope this helps.
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