My Mom has departed
Posted: Fri Aug 29, 2014 12:14 pm
My mom departed this world at about 2 a.m. yesterday. She had been admitted into in-patient hospice on August 20 where she received totally awesome care. The hospice staff was incredible to me as well as I spent hours upon hours sitting with my mother each day she was there.
She had finally been referred to in-home hospice care by her oncologist on August 8. Her in-home hospice care ended up being only one day by the time the sign-up process was complete (although she was seen by several nurses at home from the hospice during the sign-up process). This was after many phone calls to her oncologist and radiologist which I reported to them her extreme state of sleeping for 20+ hrs a day and minimal eating and drinking and days of doing neither eating or drinking.
By the time the of initial contact with the hospice marketing director (who is also an R.N.) I was finally told the truth…my mom was in the end stages of life. Her fatigue was not fatigue from radiation…her body was shutting down. It was then I was told not to force her to drink or eat, only suggest food and beverages. Had my mom been referred to hospice sooner, I would have been a better caregiver! I have regrets that I wasn't given the appropriate tools even though I was reaching out to the Cancer Institute for them.
Her suffering is now ended.
She had finally been referred to in-home hospice care by her oncologist on August 8. Her in-home hospice care ended up being only one day by the time the sign-up process was complete (although she was seen by several nurses at home from the hospice during the sign-up process). This was after many phone calls to her oncologist and radiologist which I reported to them her extreme state of sleeping for 20+ hrs a day and minimal eating and drinking and days of doing neither eating or drinking.
By the time the of initial contact with the hospice marketing director (who is also an R.N.) I was finally told the truth…my mom was in the end stages of life. Her fatigue was not fatigue from radiation…her body was shutting down. It was then I was told not to force her to drink or eat, only suggest food and beverages. Had my mom been referred to hospice sooner, I would have been a better caregiver! I have regrets that I wasn't given the appropriate tools even though I was reaching out to the Cancer Institute for them.
Her suffering is now ended.