I'm not a vengeful person, but that nurse needs to have a serious come-to-Jesus meeting. What she did to you was wrong on so many levels. I know you've got a lot on your plate now, and there are so many other things more important, but I hope you get the chance to talk to her and the surgeon together about what happened. You spent some time going through hell because of her, and the surgeon needs to know.
It sounds like you've got a really compassionate doc you're dealing with there, wanting to be upfront with you and DH, and doing his best to take out the tumor with a colonoscopy rather than more invasive surgery.
Please know that we're all pulling for you guys.
May 06 Stage IV CC: liver,ovarian mets
Oct 07 inoperable lung mets
Feb 08 - Apr'12 chemo
allergic to oxaliplatin, irinotecan
Aug '12-Feb'14 Genentech PD-L1/Avastin trial
Mar '14 -radiation to largest lung nodule
still recovering; looking at trials again