Postby abuttigi » Sun Apr 13, 2014 4:23 pm
Today is Palm Sunday for us Catholics. My dad use to always get palms and make them into crosses. It's a common thing to do, so when I got home, I youtubed how to do it and made two. They are now resting against my framed photos of my dad. I couldn't find the strength to do it last year, and this year I didn't make it through without breaking down, but at least I did it.
Man this time if year my dad got so excited to get the garden ready and plant his veggies for the year. We use to always aim for my bday, may 3, to plant everything.
Lately, my extended family, specifically some of my uncles, have been putting so much pressure on me to take care of my mom since she doesn't drive. I eventually want to do a residency out of Michigan in a big city, but that would mean leaving her behind. People tell me it's my life, while my family implies that I need to stay home to take care of her. I know they will gossip about me if I leave, but I have a feeling I'll hate myself if I don't. My dad would be ashamed of them. I could really use his guidance now about what speciality to go into, and where. He had the uncanny ability to help me see what u really wanted without telling me or forcing me into anything. He supported me no matter what, which is more than I can say of my family now.
It's just very lonely. I'm sure it doesn't even begin to compare with loosing a significant other, but I know thus is a safe place to jot down how I feel, so there it is.
Angie
Daughter to George (64)
Dx'ed Jan '11 Stage IV CC liver and peritoneum, KRAS mutant
Folfox
Folfori, Avastin
SIRT
Aug '12- progression in liver, mets to lungs
Oct '12- mets to bone, Regorafenib
Nov '12- Hospice
12/10/12- Became my beautiful angel in heaven