Postby WifeOfMike » Sat Feb 14, 2015 11:39 pm
Paul,
I am so touched by your posts and tears are streaming down my face as I type. The saying "Death leaves a Heartache no one can heal; Love leaves a memory no one can steal" perfectly reflects how I feel too.
I love the very beautiful Thorncrown Chapel, and the thought of you taking your Dear Tracie's ashes back to where you married your lovely bride. I understand where her heart was in her decision.
My Mike and I were married in a small chapel near the beach where we live, in May, 1982........ I truly wish it was still there, when we renewed our vows this past December.
It is also yet one more reason I have chosen to do a Memorial at Sea with my sons, followed by a gathering at my home Celebrating his Life
It is still hard to fathom what I just went through with my dear husband. I am still in shock how could we go from a Friday filled with hopeful news that he would undergo radiation therapy the following Tuesday, end up in the emergency ward Sunday, and to bring him home under hospice care Monday afternoon with all hopes dashed. PTSD about sums it up, for what I have gone through, too. I have not yet been to vocalize or put down in writing, the last months/ days/ hours/ moments with my dear Mike. I tried to share the good times & memories I tried to create during the last Thanksgiving & Christmas he would spend with me and our three sons. I think it gave them some small comfort, and took the focus off of the end being near. I kept secret to everyone, the daily "tough stuff" I went through, although I know Mike could see it in my eyes, particularly when they brimmed over with tears at times when we were alone for over two months of hospice care. Please don't get me wrong. I regret not one moment of my decision to have those last days here in my home, over the alternative choice of round the clock hospitals, nurses & Dr's. I especially do not regret that his last moments were just the two of us, and as I had promised my true love- the last thing he would see, would be my blue eyes looking into his. I also know that my heart was shattered, when I felt him drift away as I held him in my arms.
I sit here on Valentine's Day and miss him with all my heart & soul. I wish it were a bad dream, all of us could wake up from and have more time with those we loved so very much.
I send much love across the miles, to all of you here
Vicki
A BIG HUG to all of you here
Bad Ass WIFE
Hubs: CRC IVA,T3, N0, M1A
Resect/LN Mets 10/12
Folfox4/Avastin 11/12-5/13
Folfiri/Erbitux 6/13-10/13
Stivarga 12/13-4/14
Trial 4/14-/14
Trial 8/14-11/14
HOME Hospice 11/17/14
Guardian Angel 1/1/15
Cost of HOPE? PRICELESS