tammylayne wrote:I also have an incisional hernia, about the size of a grapefruit.
This sounds like me, up to and including the "lose weight" part.
I had/have a decent beer belly and Im sure it has contributed to my hernia - I had one I hadn't noticed that they repaired when they did my liver, but now the liver incision has a grapefruit. Im pretty sure its due to excessive BMs and pushing during and immediately after chemo. Like you, It doesn't bother me apart from the "blobmonster" aspect (took some courage to walk around by the pool in just my trunks on holiday, I can tell you). Otherwise it doesn't bother me although I do have and wear an elastic "cummerbund" a lot of the time.
My onc isn't worried, says I can get it done next year if I want to - he has another patient whos whole guts apparently hang out through an hernia and hes supposedly fine, so its not exactly a life-threatening thing (as long as you don't get intestine trapped). A surgeon friend has recommended not having it done laparascopically, because that is apparently less effective, but all else being well I am going to have it done, because I think being careful about it WILL limit me long run.