My wonderful sweet husband is finally at peace

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My wonderful sweet husband is finally at peace

Postby SFLwife » Wed Oct 16, 2013 7:07 am

Through much tears I wish to thank all of you for your support and advice since my loving and sweet husband started his journey a year ago. Yesterday he did pass away and is finally at peace and has no more pain. He declined quickly after his last chemo on 9/13 and never really recovered. We saw a quick progression on pain, weakness and confusion the last few days so his Onc did recommend hospice on Monday when I called him. They came in Monday night and started him on oxygen, and drops of Oxy and Ativan. He seemed to finally relax, breathe easier than he had in weeks and slept for the first time in days It was great to see him sleep, but after 15 hours, around 11am.Yesterday I asked if we drew back on the Ativan would he wake up so we could speak with him. They said they had not given him Ativan since 2am. We just spoke to him as he slept. At around 3 the nurse said his respiration was changing and he was most likely passing. My two sons and I spent that last almost hour just laying on the bed with him and giving him so much love, kisses and soft hugs until he peacefully passed. It was such a special time we can carry in our hearts forever. Much better that if he had passed in pain and anxiety as we saw increasing this weekend. One thing i am very glad about that i think made a world if difference was insisting to hospice we keep him here at home and in our own bed. They did want to move him to a facility and I knew his wishes were to never spend another night in a hospital. That made a very big difference and we will never regret it.
As I was messaging to Sharon (mojo) a little bit ago, you guys have been such an unbelievable support this year. I could not have gone through this year without you. Flyer things all settle down, I will be back to share with others as it helped so much for surviving loved ones like Sharon continue to give support and advice to those going through each new phase. I love you guys and my prayers are with you all continuously
Wife & BFF DH 56 yo. DX 10/12
Chemo and trial
Tons of chemo
10-15-13 Gone with peace and much love... ... y-96542543

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Re: My wonderful sweet husband is finally at peace

Postby cashmere » Wed Oct 16, 2013 7:42 am

I am so sorry for your loss, your posting was so lovely. Be kind to your self, Pearl
Stage III
Diagnosed 4/07 at 51
36 rad/24/7 chemo bag
surg 9/07
6 mon chemo w/48 hr bag
ileo reversal 5/08
NED since 9/07!!
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Been able to control blockage issues with fiber supplements!!

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Re: My wonderful sweet husband is finally at peace

Postby michelle c » Wed Oct 16, 2013 8:08 am

I am so sorry for your loss. My heartfelt sympathy to you and your boys at this difficult time.

Love and hugs,

Michelle xox
25 May 09 Dx with CC (sigmoid colon) 2 days after my 44th b'day
CEA prior to surgery 4.7
3 Jun 09 LAR - Stage III 3/10 lymph nodes
6 Jul - 10 Dec 09 12 cycles FOLFIRI
Genetic testing - inconclusive for Lynch
Jul 12 port removed & hernia repair

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Re: My wonderful sweet husband is finally at peace

Postby gep » Wed Oct 16, 2013 8:36 am

I am thinking of you and your family. I'm glad that he's at peace.
caregiver to Eli
dx 8/07 3B
7/09 - liver & celiac lym node
1/10 Liver Res & Lym nodes out
7/10 Back - Liver & other lym nodes
12/12 hit chemo wall
1/12 Clin Trial - MEK & AKT inhibitors
3/12 Trial failed/ spheres 4/12
7/30/13 Eli died.

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Re: My wonderful sweet husband is finally at peace

Postby skypup » Wed Oct 16, 2013 8:45 am

My sympathies to you and your whole family. Hate that cancer took him, love that you all loved him so well. I'm so glad that hospice came in and helped. Peace be with you.

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Re: My wonderful sweet husband is finally at peace

Postby Felicia » Wed Oct 16, 2013 8:47 am

I'm so sorry. Sounds like his passing was just the way he wanted it. What a special memory. May you feel lifted up in the days, months, and years that come. Know that I am thinking and praying for you.

DH age 48, dx 10/26/11 -cc stage4, liver mets
12/11 - 8/12 chemo
Liver resection 9/12 -- NED
12/12-its back
TACE, HAI chemo fail
tumors: lung,liver,LN,peri,bones

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Re: My wonderful sweet husband is finally at peace

Postby Laurettas » Wed Oct 16, 2013 9:12 am

I am so sorry for your deep loss but I know that the fact that he is suffering no more is great solace. I am wishing you much peace in the days and weeks ahead.
DH 58 4/11 st 4 SRC CC
Lymph, peri, lung
4/11 colon res
5-10/11 FLFX, Av, FLFRI, Erb
11/11 5FU Erb
1/12 PET 2.4 Max act.
1/12 Erb
5/12 CT ext. new mets
5/12 Xlri
7/12 bad CT
8/12 5FU solo
8/12 brain met
9/12 stop tx
11/4/12 finished race,at peace

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Re: My wonderful sweet husband is finally at peace

Postby HardKnox » Wed Oct 16, 2013 10:05 am

So sorry to hear. Much, much too young.

So many of us here who have loved, and lost.
Wife DX bowel obstruction
Hemicolectomy 1/17/13
DX Stage IV CC
Recovery Jan - March
Relapse 4/10/13. Surgery 4/12/13
Ileostomy. Gastrostomy. Jejunostomy.
Home 4/22/13
Starting chemo 5/8/13
Round 1 FOLFOX
No more chemo
She died 7/28/13.

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Postby DBF » Wed Oct 16, 2013 10:12 am

I am so sorry. Wishing you and your family much peace.
6/13 Dx @ 29 Wks pregnant, 42 yo
Adenocarcinoma, mucinous
7/13 C-sec/col resec/part. hysterectomy
8/13 Pulm embolism
8/13 Spread to liver
9/13 Liver resection
ADAPT: Xeloda/Celebrex
2/14 oopherectomy
10/15 obstruction surg
10/17 Scar tissue removal/vsg surg
2019: NED :D
Mom to 3 boys: 21, 10 & 6

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Re: My wonderful sweet husband is finally at peace

Postby Guinevere » Wed Oct 16, 2013 10:30 am

I'm so sorry for your and your children's loss but glad y'all were able to have those last moments with him. I'm praying for strength, mercy and grace for you and the family in the coming days, weeks and months. Please let us know how you're doing if you're feeling up to it.

God bless ~
Hrt atk - Feb 11
CRC4 DX - Apr 11
APR liver rsct, procto - Jul 11
Folfox/Avastin - Sep 11
Xeliri - Nov 11
Iritux - Jun 12
Break - Jan - Mar 13
Iritux - Mar 13
Stivarga - Aug 13
Folfiri - Oct 13
Exhausted treatment options - May 14

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Re: My wonderful sweet husband is finally at peace

Postby Helen » Wed Oct 16, 2013 10:39 am

Dear SFLwife,

Please accept my deepest condolences,my heart is with you.I thank you so much for writing such a beautiful post and sharing it with all of us here.My hope is that peace surround you and your sons as you walk thru the coming days.

Peace and Love
My partner of almost 18 years ***Wife as of July 1 2013***Pam was dx in Nov 2011
Stage IV advanced mCRC
Nov 2011 colostomy
Feb 2012 Folfiri
March 2012 Erbitux
May 2012 3 blood clots
June 2012 Lovenox
May 2013 FOLFOX
Dec 19 2013 My beloved was set free

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Re: My wonderful sweet husband is finally at peace

Postby GreenMonkey » Wed Oct 16, 2013 10:43 am

so glad you were all there when he passed. it's an honor to witness. thank you for sharing your love for your husband as well as his passing. I hope that knowing he was at peace and surrounded by love is comforting to you. my deepest condolences.
RC - T3NXMX depth of invasion 3mm - diagnosed 5/26/13 age 53
High Dose, Internal Radiation at Johns Hopkins resulted in a PCR
LAR 9/10/13 - 0-26 nodes. CEA 1.9 post surgery
XELOX started 10/21/13(8 rounds)
11/14 NED

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Re: My wonderful sweet husband is finally at peace

Postby Mojo » Wed Oct 16, 2013 11:07 am

No one could have done more. His journey has finished and he is now cancer free. May God bless and keep you. Hugs, Sharon
colon cancer stage 3 2n0mets 2002
cancer returns march 2010
emerg brain surgery, chemo may 2010 sterotactic radiation april 2010

progression of tumors march 2011 new chemo camptosar leukovorin 5fu avastin
Kenny age 58/died 11/21/11

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Re: My wonderful sweet husband is finally at peace

Postby mstults » Wed Oct 16, 2013 11:49 am

So sorry to hear of his going so quickly but that did allow your family to,do it your way. Thanks for helping us and remember we're here if you feel the need for that help as well. Best of luck and easy transition in the coming days and months.
Male Age 53. Dx CC with numerous liver mets 6/23/12. Colon res 6/24/12. Started folfox 7/24/12. Added avastin 8/27/12. CT 12/27/12 still showing shrink. Took 17 rounds of FOLFOX. Then 5-FU + Avastin. Switched to Irinotecan for 1 yr. CEA rose to >400. Switched to Vectibix 2/18/15. CEA decreasing. Scans show some growth in liver mets. Lung Mets stable to shrinking.

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Re: My wonderful sweet husband is finally at peace

Postby so-scared » Wed Oct 16, 2013 11:51 am

Please accept my most sincere condolences. It is so hard to say good bye to the one you love but it is even harder to watch them suffer. His suffering is now over. I pray for peace for you and your family.


DH 51 yo
dx 5/16/11 stg 4 RC
mets both lobes liver & lung
6/11 chem/rad
FOLFOX 9-12/11
12/11 TME/liver resect/rfa (15 tumors)
more Folfox w/Avastin
5/12 innumerable mets liver
Folfox/Avas FAIL
HAI pump 12/12
Had to leave 5/23/14

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