Bad news today it is time for hospice.

[here4mymom]

My mother has been fighting for three years and today we were told there is no more options and she will go on hospice. Onc told us maybe six months left. i am scared to death. My mother is my dearest friend and I just don't know how I will manage without her. I hate this f###ing cancer. In a way I am just really pissed off that this disease has to take her from me. She is only 66 years old and it just not fair. Sorry about my rant but I just needed to vent. I have been reading this forum since my mothers diagnosis and have got lots of useful information from all of you. Thanks for listening.

[violeta_k]

I'm sorry to hear this, it must hurt so bad... My mom just turned 66 two days ago, and I'm very close to her as well...We are just at the beginning of this journey. I don't know what to say... Just wanted to send a good thought your way... I'll pray for you and your mom tonight.

Violeta

[Rockovage]

66 is way to young , so sorry you`re going thru this .

You and your mom are in my thoughts and prayers .

[scattered edge]

Your mom and you are in my thoughts and prayers. At one point I was really struggling and very mad. Debbie Jett - BLESS HER HEART <3- stepped in a helped me to redirect my anger. There are many angels on this board.. maybe someone will strike a cord with you and help you along this sometimes agonizing journey.

Rosie

[alli227]

I'm so sorry for what you are going through. I am in the same position my mom has been on hospice for about 4 months and we are slowly starting a progressive health decline. What I can tell you about hospice is that they are the most AMAZING people you will ever meet at least in my case they have been. They will make things so much easier and they will help you to have time to be your moms daughter. I know how hard this is my mom is 64 and she is my best friend and some days I just want to scream and cry and punch something but then I look at her and all I want to do is smile and let her know how much I love her...

If you would like to talk feel free to PM me...

Best wishes and prayers to you.

[PainInTheAss]

I am so sorry, too!

My mom died when I was 13 (not from cancer) and it has always felt like a big empty hole in my soul even to this day. In your case, it may hurt even worse than it did for me because you have had so many years to bond and grow close.

I found great comfort in the book "Motherless Daughters" - mother-loss at any age is very hard to deal with for a daughter.

So I feel like I've been sucker-punched now since I would never want to wish losing a mother on anyone, especially my own children! I just hope I am one of the lucky ones who beats this disease and is around a long time to come.

[Lisahopes]

I, too, can understand how you feel.

I also lost my mom just a few months ago.

Her health declined suddenly when her liver started failing.

All I can say is, try to spend quality time together.

My mom made some recordings for me and my kids, we looked at old photos and talked about fun times.

It is very hard but very valuable.

Blessings

[here4mymom]

Thank you all for your words of encouragement and prayers. It is comforting to read all that you wrote

[livingbyfaith]

You know, having lost my mom at 65 to a lengthy illness, the one thing I can say is I never took a minute of my time with her for granted. I told her how much I loved her, saw and called her often. Without an illness, had she died in an accident, I would never have had that chance. And guess what, doctors are not Gods, they really only can give you an estimate which I hate. Might be a cure before then. Praying for you.

[curious56]

Cannot imagine your pain. Dad died at 63 (pancreatic cancer) and I thought I'd NEVER get over it. Took years, but I'm ok now -- with wonderful memories and stories that my siblings and I share with laughter on the holidays. It DOES get better.....eventually.

My mom is 80 and I cannot imagine what I will do when she is gone. Something about the relationship between mothers and children.

I would agree that at least you have time to say goodbye -- small comfort, I'm sure. I've often thought about the way we die -- if it is sudden, it is often easier for the person who dies, HARD on the family. Of course, death is ALWAYS hard on the family..............perhaps it is a matter of degree???? Shock versus grim resignation.

So very, very sorry. You both will be in my prayers......especially praying for GOOD drugs to keep your mom out of pain.

(((HUGS)))

[Guinevere]

I'm so sorry and hope, with hospice care, she'll have more than 6 months. Spend this time making good memories when you can. You get a heads-up and that's such a blessing and so important. Share some laughter, some tears, some memories and lots of affection.
You'll be in my thoughts and prayers ~
Guinevere

[rosa01]

I loved some of the messages that was posted for you. I lost my Mom to cc five years ago and we learned before Thanksgiving and she was gone three weeks later. I wish I had more time to make those special memories but I do have so many already collected to last my life time. My prayers will be with you and your Mom. May your days together be ones of great memory's and happiness.

Sheila

[elise]

(((((hugs)))))