At the risk of either being
insensitive or obnoxious....
I am sure guilty of both on many occasions !!
...AND I have not had the opportunity to read all of the prior posts ...but then again... BTDT since I joined in 2008.
The only thing which worked for me, in the heat of the moment, was something I learned in a "Verbal Self Defence" course.
Regardless of how egregious, insensitive, ignorant ... and brain dead Effing STUPID something is that someone says to me..... I accept that for THEM, at that instant, it was true for them. Yada yada yada whatever. I may not agree, accept or want to weigh in on their stupidity ... but for them it is the best they can do right now.
I accept that is
their reality and I MOVE ON...we don't be suffering fools lightly here on the CClub and folks who cannot support us -> do not exist....JMO.
The UNIVERSE pisses in everyone's Cheerios once in a while.
Somebody ALWAYS leaves the gate open at the STUPID Farm.... and the inmates get out.
I can NOT control whatever other bizarre influences infect the great unwashed.
I CAN control how I react and how it affects ME !
End rant / vent....but I know how I used to get so pissed off in the past, just not my thing now.
I need to focus on ME...not them. If a good friend is being an asshole,
say "you are being an asshole.... here's what I NEED from you to support me ..."
If it is NOT a good friend ...WTF ? who cares.. tell them to go
"reproduce elsewhere"JMO, trust me BTDT..many, many , many times.. on many forums...for many years....yes I know I need a real life !
CRguy