Christylyn wrote:
So another in my seemingly endless list of questions..........for those of you who have or are going thru treatment yourselves, does it help or hurt for your partner or loved one's to share their fear, their tears, the anxieties with you? I have hidden in the shower when I feel I have to cry and a few times lost it while talking with our oldest son about everything. I have not once cried in front of my hubby, nor have I expressed to him any fears that he won't be ok. I don't want to make him feel that I believe for one second that he isn't going to come thru this just fine. I only want him to see positivity from me and know that I believe with everything in me that he's going to kick this in the butt.
Once again, thank you from the bottom of my heart to all of you who have shared with me. We have two more days to go until we leave our home to make the long drive to Houston. My anxiety level is increasing with each hour. I just want to get there so badly and have the waiting end and the healing begin................<3
Rob in PA wrote:...
Good question. I personally don't like to see my wife break down in front of me, nor do i like her discussing her fears with me other than occasionally. That's just me, because she is my rock. I know she has her breakdowns, she has told me that, but I feel for me to be strong, she needs to be strong with me. Don't get me wrong, we do talk about our fears occasionally but we don't dwell on it. I talk about my fears to her all the time, and I think if she broke down at the same time I was talking about my fears, then I would probably bottle up my fears so she wouldn't have a breakdown. Bottling up the patients fears is no good, so she stays strong while we discuss it and it makes me feel incredibly better to see how strong she is. She probably crawls into the shower and cries like you after we have the talk...but I don't see it Maybe that's just me being a big baby, but you asked, and I told you
Bottom line, when I'm feeling down, she knows when it's time to kick me in the arse and say "don't you give up on us" etc. etc. blah, blah, chin up, hang in there, blah, blah, or on the flipside, she also knows when to be gentle with me and hold my hand....then I get my head back in the game and trudge on.
Rob
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