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Lisahopes
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My mom died today

Postby Lisahopes » Fri Apr 05, 2013 1:59 pm

My precious mom, Sarah, died today of complications relating to her colon cancer. Her liver failed and was huge at the time of death. She was calm and peaceful at death. Initally she was agitated and waiving her arms so she was given a mild sedative. Thereafter she was calm and resting. When I last saw her on Monday she was walking and talking to my girls. I then flew 12 hours back home and was told once I landed back home on Tuesday, that she was in hospice and had massively deteriorated. I flew back last night. Once I arrived today, I spent some time reassuring her and telling her I loved her and she died.

Just 4 days after she was eating and talking, she is gone...I am in shock.

Her sufferring is over. She is now able to talk and walk and care for herself. She is clear minded and happy again. I will miss her every day of my life until my time comes.
Last edited by Lisahopes on Fri Apr 05, 2013 2:11 pm, edited 1 time in total.
Daughter to Mom, 65, Stage IV with mets to liver, lungs and peri.
Dx 2006, Stage II.
Regular check October 2011, Stage IV established.
She has had Oxi, Folfox and Xeloda, now Avastin.
Progression.
Mom died on April 5th 2013.

some
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Re: My mom died today

Postby some » Fri Apr 05, 2013 2:07 pm

I'm so sorry for your loss Lisa. May she rest in peace. I hope you and your family feel her spirit watching over you.


Serena
DH (age 41) diag Stage IV mets to peritoneum - July 2012 (undetectable on CT PET or MRI)
Folfox 7 & Avastin started July 2012 CEA, CA 19-9 not indicators
HIPEC surgery 1/18/13
Folfiri/Erbitux - March 2013
Lots of prayers.

ams5796
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Re: My mom died today

Postby ams5796 » Fri Apr 05, 2013 2:24 pm

Lisa, I am so sorry to hear this news. My condolences to you and your family.


Ann
Stage 3C (or 4?) Rectal Cancer 01/07
2/10 lung mets
3/11 VATS
6/11 VATS
7/13 lung met
2/14 SBRT
NED 8/14
5/17 scan and MRI found treated spine met

SpeechieRox
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Re: My mom died today

Postby SpeechieRox » Fri Apr 05, 2013 2:33 pm

Sincere, sincere condolences. This must be the most difficult time for you. I hope you're surrounded by your near and dear ones to help each other through this time.

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prtza
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Re: My mom died today

Postby prtza » Fri Apr 05, 2013 2:38 pm

Sincere condolences to you and your family.

Best wishes,
Paul
DX CRC 2/29/12 Signet Ring Cell @44 YOA
Left hemicolectomy 3/9/12
T4N2M0 Stage IIIc 10/11 LN
April-June 2012 30 treatments chemoradiation
6 cycles XELOX 7/11/12-11/7/12
12/7/12 NED
Recurrence Jan '13
Starting FOLFIRI 2/20/2013

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dianetavegia
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Re: My mom died today

Postby dianetavegia » Fri Apr 05, 2013 2:50 pm

I'm so sorry Lisa. I am glad it was a peacefilled passing and that you got to spend time with her earlier in the week.

My condolences to you and your family.
Stage III cc surgery 1/7/09. 12 tx FOLFOX
Stage IV PET = 1.5cm liver met. HR 4/11/12

14 years since dx and 11 years post liver resection.
Pronounced CURED and discharged by onc

“O Lord my God, I cried out to You, And You healed me.” Psalms 30:2

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BrownBagger
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Re: My mom died today

Postby BrownBagger » Fri Apr 05, 2013 2:58 pm

I grieve, Lisa. So sorry.
Eric, 58
Dx: 3/09, Stage 4 RC
Recurrences: (ongoing, lung, bronchial cavity, ribs)
Major Ops: 6/ RFA: 3 /bronchoscopies: 8
Pelvic radiation: 5 wks. Bronchial radiation—brachytheray: 3 treatments
Chemo Rounds (career):136
Current Chemo Cocktail: Xeloda & Erbitux & Irinotecan biweekly
Current Cocktail; On the Wagon (mostly)
Bicycle miles post-dx 10,477
Motto: Live your life like it's going to be a long one, because it just might, and then you'll be glad you did.

janklo
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Re: My mom died today

Postby janklo » Fri Apr 05, 2013 3:16 pm

You will see her again Lisa. Please take comfort in that and also in that your mom does not have to suffer anymore, she is at peace and whole again. Look around because I know you will see a sign from her that she is ok. I am so glad you got to see her before she passed.
Mom to 28 yo daughter
colectomy 2/22/10, stage 3C, signet cell
7/2011 peritoneal mets
HIPEC September 2012, difficult recovery
Hospice 10/31/2012, Died 11/16/2012

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Re: My mom died today

Postby Kathryn in MN » Fri Apr 05, 2013 3:18 pm

My condolences on the loss of your mother. I know it seems a shock that it happened fast, but I hope when my time comes that it is fast and not lingering. Even though you don't want your mother in pain and suffering, that still doesn't make it easy to say goodbye. I hope your memories of the good times help you through the coming days.
CRC AUG09 Age 47
Sig Res T4a N2a Mx, KRAS mut codon13
Mets bones & nodes
FOLFOX, FOLFIRI, Avastin, Radiation
Irinotecan, Zaltrap & STAR RFA
APR13 pleurisy & ascites - more chemo & draining
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Re: My mom died today

Postby mtlimpactfan » Fri Apr 05, 2013 3:21 pm

Lisa,
You have my deepest sympathy, maythe sorrow you feel in your heart lighten by the love that surrounds you.
Charles
DW 38 DX 1/09 CRC(T3N1) 3/33 LN (colitis @19yo)
6/09 Temp Ileo J-pouch
Folfox 12 rds
06/12 regional recurrence SRC adn poorly diff Gr3/3
28rds ChemRad
surgery (hyst, ileo)
12/12 Folfox 12 rds
2013 All neg Pet/CT
05/14 It's back, inoperable
09/14 Vectibix

mymom
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Re: My mom died today

Postby mymom » Fri Apr 05, 2013 3:41 pm

I am so sorry to hear this.
Stage 4 CC DX 5/11
colon/livr rsct 5/11(1 met)
Folfox July-11/11
NED to 5/12
New Primry BC-4/12,Stage 1
2 livermet 5/2012
Liver rsct,HAI 6/12,Folfiri
NED to 10/13,1 liver met,ablation, Folfiri
NED to 12/14, another spot
3/15 NED
Ablation 1 liver met 10/15
1/16-current NED
6/22- small spot liver again, ablation oct 2023

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JanC09
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Re: My mom died today

Postby JanC09 » Fri Apr 05, 2013 3:45 pm

So sorry for your loss. May you find peace in the coming days!
JanC09-Age59-Feb'08 Stage IIIc
Folfox,12 tx.
recurrance March'10
Folfiri, 10 tx
Radiation on pelvis, 28 tx
SBRT July '11
Folfiri March'12-June'12
Avastin only July'12-Feb.'13
Xeloda+Avastin- Feb'13-Oct'14
Irinotecan/Avastin- March'15 -4tx then scan

jean60
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Re: My mom died today

Postby jean60 » Fri Apr 05, 2013 4:12 pm

Lisa, I am so very sorry. I will hold you close in my thoughts.

Jean
Dx Rectal Cncr 5/12
Stage III
5 weeks Chemo (5FU) & Radiation completed
LAR with temporary ileostomy 9/12, complete response
Began FOLFOX 10/12. oxil reduced after tx 1, eliminated after tx 2. Now 5FU.
Finished 1/13
Ileostomy reversal 5/13

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abuttigi
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Re: My mom died today

Postby abuttigi » Fri Apr 05, 2013 4:33 pm

O Lisa, I'm so sorry.

I'm so glad you made it in time to be there for your mom. It has comforted me to know I was with my dad. Her death sounds a lot like my dad's, talking and walking so soon before he passed. I'm glad her passing was quick and painless. These next days, weeks, months are going to be tough, but we are all here for you. Like I said, please PM me if you need anything, please let me know. I've been there.

Thinking and praying for you Lisa,

Angie
Daughter to George (64)
Dx'ed Jan '11 Stage IV CC liver and peritoneum, KRAS mutant
Folfox
Folfori, Avastin
SIRT
Aug '12- progression in liver, mets to lungs
Oct '12- mets to bone, Regorafenib
Nov '12- Hospice
12/10/12- Became my beautiful angel in heaven

deb1223
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Re: My mom died today

Postby deb1223 » Fri Apr 05, 2013 4:36 pm

So sorry Lisa, know she's living pain free and peaceful now.

Debbie
52 Yr. old Female, DX July 2010
Stage IV CC, 21 mets to liver, 1 to lungs
12 Rounds Folfox
To date no surgeries
Enlarged spleen
Been on Avastin only since Mar. 2011
I WILL SURVIVE WITH GOD'S HELP!


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