Hello all,
I have had type 1 diabetes since I was 11. It's a disease there is NO getting away from, because it requires some decision making many, many times a day. Sometimes hour by hour. Since I've had it for so long, and since my professional career has been, for more than 30 years, as a diabetes educator, there has really been no getting away from it. For so many years, I was controlled in many ways by anxiety of what complication of diabetes would arise first (loss of my vision, loss of my kidney function, etc, etc) Every single time I would check my urine for protein (a sign of diabetes-related kidney disease) I would have a full on panic attack. I finally realized I was doing everything (pretty much) that I could to prevent these things from happening,and one day I just decided to try to stop worrying constantly about it. Over time, I did. Just about the time I was diagnosed with stage IV cancer, I had reconciled myself to stop panicking about diabetes complications. Ironic, sort of? So now, I've had diabetes since 1966---47 years, I think, but I'm terrible at math---but it's what I always "celebrate" at New Years, because that's when I was diagnosed. My diabetes "education" as an 11 year old consisted of being told "If you ever eat a piece of candy again, you'll die", and yes, even that many years ago people knew that type 1 diabetes was not caused by eating candy!!
So, by about Valentine's day, I went without eating a piece of candy, then, on Valentine's day, I did...and I didn't die! Over the years, I learned a lot about it, how to manage it, how to live with it. My first job was as a counselor at a camp for little kids with diabetes, and I was teaching the 3 and 4 years how to give themselves insulin. Then in college,I learned first hand (sort of) how to deal with a diabetes-complicated pregnancy, as I had one and delivered my son 3 days after graduation.Then I spent my professional career learning more and more about it. Learning more and more ----> ------> feeling more and more in control. Not being immodest here, but I published the very first paper in the peer-reviewed literature about home glucose monitoring during pregnancy, and had, at that time, the clinical support of virtually no one (not the OBs, not even the endocrinologists)---well, look at home glucose monitoring now! LOL!
My point (eventually I get to it---some would be saying "yawn" at this point, I know) is that what Fletch says in his motto "Who can add a moment to his life by worrying" (or something like that) is just so true. We can't! it doesn't matter that it's not fair, or we have kids, or we had great life plans, or whatever. WE CAN'T CHANGE WHAT WE CAN''T CHANGE. We can only work on changing how we feel about it. We can search to find doctors we can trust, so we can transfer some of the worry to them. We can try to be present in the moment we are undergoing something painful or scary, then try to let it go as soon as it's over. We can try to remember that whatever will be found out on a scan is already true, and the scan is really just providing us with information we need and can then act upon. We can try, as best we can, to enjoy each moment, knowing we may have many, many of them, many years of them, or not so many of them, but it is ours to make of them what we will. We can try to remember, every time we get scared, that THE cure may be just around any corner. It WILL happen, and it may happen someday soon, when we're not even really expecting it. It may happen in time for 100s of thousands of us. There are thousands of very determined people working on it! I never expected to survive this long with stage IV CRC, but I am, and, this is true, I rarely spend time worrying about it anymore. I am quite aware that I am statistically likely to have a recurrence, and if and when it happens, I'll deal with it as well as I'm able.
Best wishes to you all. I hope you can find ways to avoid wasting all the time worrying I did on stuff that never happened to me due to my diabetes...47 years and NO diabetes-related complications. 3+ years and no cancer recurrences yet. Not saying it won't happen, just saying I'm like Scarlet O'Hara---I'll worry about it tomorrow
Bev