simon031003 wrote:I can only speak from a caregiver stand point. Yes, relationships change alot during cancer treatment. There are so many different emotions going on with both people. The patient is in shock disbelief pain and probably so many other things that we caregivers can't even imagine. the caregiver is also going through the shock and the possibilty of losing the love of their life. I am not sure if you have young children or grown children but that adds an additional element that goes into it. I believe that the personality of a caregiver has alot to do with how the relationship will progress. Our relationship has gone from being wonderful and great to being more of me being everything to him. I basically have to be in charge of taking care of every aspect of our lives. Most of the time I am all about it and can handle it, but to be completely honest there are some days that I am just emotionally drained from it all. I love my husband with all my heart and would never consider us being apart, but sometimes I miss the days where I didn't have to be everything to everyone all the time. When that happens, I usually lock myself in the bathroom and have a good cry and I am all better. Wish I had some advice, but just know you are not alone. I know others will chime in as they have more experience with this issue.
jean60 wrote:This is a tough topic and I don't know if I should write about it, but this is the place where I feel I can talk about what I need to talk about. So here goes.
Sadly, I fear that my relationship with my husband has suffered greatly through this marathon. I would be remiss if I didn't say that there were some problems coming into this, but nothing that I would really call serious. Now I find myself, too often, questioning whether or not we will make it through this or frankly, if I WANT to stay. I think this disease can bring out the best and the worst in all of us and when I read the posts on here by and for caretakers who seem to be right there for their partner no matter what I often feel so cheated in my own situation.
This is actually not a whine fest. I just wonder if anyone else has experienced or heard of relationships ending after this kind of stress. I suspect the answer is yes, but I seem to need to test the waters so to speak.
I realize this could be a very sensitive subject and I am not asking for anyone's personal experience, just whatever you might be willing or able to contribute.
Thanks in advance,
Jean
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