Postby Bev G » Sat Oct 06, 2012 7:59 am
Thank you all, my beloved friends, for your nice comments and incredible support. I told my husband a few days ago what was going on, and the "history repeating itself" experience I was feeling....that I was thinking of just calling it a day with the Board, etc. My husband (who appears for all the world to have cornered the market on selfishness much of the time) says "Ah, you will never do that...", and went on to list several rather insightful realities about why he believed that to be true.
Many of the people on the Board are as real, and as important, and as close to me as if we actually did live in the same neighborhood. I pray for you nightly, and there are indeed some sleepless nights I have when things are going very bad for you...hey! That's just like a family, huh? I used to put some people's upcoming scans on my calendar, so I could remember to check on results. One of my "real life"" friends once said something to me like "get a life". Well, guess what...this is my life. Having worked forever in a career I passionately loved (caring for sick pregnant women and their fetuses), that has ended. My dumb back, and cancer, ended that for me. What can and should fill that hole? I spent decades learning my craft, and now years learning what I know about this...
What could be as intensely emotional as a critically ill mom or her baby? Or as incredible a high as them both pulling through? Well, this, right here on our Board. I once said something to my son about how glad I was that I only had one child, because there was no way I could have loved another as I loved him, and he responded, "No mom, that's not how it goes....what happens is that your capacity to love just grows deeper and deeper and deeper---it is not finite". YES. That's true, I've learned.
That's what cancer has done for me. My capacity to love has grown deeper and deeper. That capacity doesn't appear to have any end in sight. When I sign stuff "love" here, I'm not just saying it...I really am feeling it. So leaving? I don't think so---sometimes choosing more carefully which posts to respond to--probably yes.
Thanks again, everyone. I wouldn't want to live without you.
Love to all,
Bev
58 yo Type1 DM 48 years
12/09 Stage IV 2/22 nodes + liver met, colon resec
3 tx FOLFIRI, liver resec 4/10
9/10 6 mos off chemo, Neg PET&CTC CEA nl
2/11 finished total 10 rounds chemo
9/13 ^17th clean PET/CT NED for now