The Colon Club

I have been a member of this board since Nov of 2010. I have posted infrequently with the last post in Sept of 2011. My wife was Dx in late 2009 and lived about 30 months from Dx. I would frequently read the board even though I did not post. I stayed away for a couple of months after she passed and came back and started reading in the last month or so.

My wife fought hard to remain with the kids and me. She tried whatever the doctors suggested. She went through hell like everyone else here. It came for naught in the end and she went into hospice for a little over 3 weeks. I spent the last month of her life with her 24/7. I took care of her with aid and guidance from Hospice in my home. I was sleeping next to her when she passed. The kids spent the last week and half at home with her as well. I had taken them out of school so they would have the chance to be there with her mother. They have handled her passing very well. But there are and will be many times of struggles for the three of us. One of my wife's sisters and one of my brothers traded off coming and spending time with us during Hospice. They helped manage the house and take of the kids while I focused on the love of my life. The pain has been terrible and continues to be. It is very very very slowly getting better. It will never completely go away, I lost the one of the three past parts of me and it can never be replaced.

I will continue to monitor periodically and weigh in on things that we went through that could help others.

Mike

Mike,
Thank you for taking the time to let us know what transpired. I am truly sorry for your loss and please accept my condolences on your loss. While your wife is gone, her spirit and her love for you will live on in the eyes and hearts of your children. Keep her memory alive in all of your minds and hearts.....it will be her memory that will get you through the trying days and months ahead. And, believe it or not, it will be the memory of her smile, the way she laughed or any number of things made special only by her that will someday put the twinkle back in your eye and bring a smile to your face once again.
I'm grateful to hear that you had such a wonderful support system in your family to help you through those last difficult days. It's uplifting to know that there still are truly good and compassionate people left in our society who will lend a hand whenever needed.
Please don't be a stranger. There are many on this board who have traveled the road that you now find yourself on. Lean on them and let them be a support to you and your children. Take care of yourself as well as you have three children who depend on you now more than ever!
Jaynee

Jaynee

Sorry to hear the passing of your wife. I am sure she is very proud how well you are doing keeping care of the girls. Please take care of you too. Please keep us informed how all of you are doing?

Sheila

Mike,
Thanks for coming back and sharing your story. I am new to this as my husband Kevin just passed away sept 10th after a 14 month fight and I am finding it hard as well. You had a wonderful support system and the fact that you were there for so much time during the end meant a lot, that is something I regret. I thought I had more time and had just begun my leave of absence when it all happened to fast. I am sill off from work and find that I am still in disbelief.

My prayers go out to your family and I hope each day we both get stronger as you are a few steps ahead of me.

Hugs,

Lisa

So sorry about your wife. You sound like a wonderful husband and she was a very lucky woman.

My sincere sympathy to you Mike, your wife sounds like a beautiful person.....it is all so very sad.
Clarabelle

Mike, I am so sorry. Time does help make it easier. Take care of yourself. Thinking of you.

Sandy

Mike,
So sorry for your loss. Thank you for taking the time to post and your generosity in offering help to others that are currently going through this dreaded disease. Your wife would be so very proud of you.

Mike,
Thank you for continuing to be a part of this forum and sharing your experiences to assist other members.
Please accept my condolences for the loss of your wife.
Sending prayers and best wishes to you and your family for the healing Journey ahead.

Sincerely
CRguy

I am so sorry, Mike. It is heartbreaking. You are a great father, an outstanding husband.
You are so kind to want to help others......it can be the loneliest journey anyone can ever take.

Thanks for stopping back and letting us know Mike.

It will get better; it will be slow; I believe it never goes away entirely.

My thoughts are with you and your family,

Eric

Mike, thank you so much for sharing your story. I am so sorry to hear about your wife. I can tell the pain is deep.

I hope that you can find peace in the beautiful memories of your life together and in the children who are part of her and an image of the love between the two of you.

Mike - I am so sorry for your loss. May your wife's memories sustain you through these difficult days ahead.

Mike,
I remember when you first joined, seeing you signature, and thinking, "What love!" I am so glad you were able to be with you wife at the end. May your memories sustain and comfort you in the days ahead.
Dianne

Mike,
I am very sad and sorry for your loss. My caregiver husband is traveling your path and I pray he can continue with as much grace and love as you have the last thirty months.
Thank you for your willingness to return here and offer help.
God bless