I have been a lurker here since August 2010 when I was diagnosed with stage 3c rectal cancer at the age of 30. I've always appreciated and looked forward to your posts. I hope you continue to participate.
I don't mean to weigh into this "cured" debate, but candidly, I'm not sure what the controversy is about. It's nothing more than a matter of semantics. If you like the word, use it. And vice versa. Regardless, learn to agree to disagree with those who have an opposing view.
vancouver eve wrote:I support stage 3 cancer people but what bothers me is that a stage 1 or2 that has never endured what the rest of us have gone through, can say they get how we feel. If someone has been a stage 1,2 and required little if any treatment, how can they understand what others who have received treatment for years are going through. Galen gets what it is like because she has been there. There are others on the site in the same situation and they know the difficulties.
I respectfully disagree. I've never shared this here because, frankly, it's never been relevant. But perhaps now is a good time. Colorectal cancer was not my first rodeo, so to speak, when it comes to cancer. When I was two (so thirty years ago now) I was diagnosed with a stage 4 rhabdomyo-sarcoma tumor on the left side of my face. Fortunately, I survived after radiation, surgery, and chemotherapy. However, I had major damage to my face (radiation back in the early 80s was not as precise as it is now) and have since undergone 20+ reconstructive surgeries to reconstruct that part of my face. While I think I look great, I still have a noticeable deformity.
In other words, I have been dealing with cancer and related medical procedures my entire life, save for the first two years. I don't know anyone else who has been diagnosed with two different primary tumors in different parts of the body by the age of 30; had to deal with a noticeable facial deformity while growing up as a result of childhood cancer; and now has to live without a rectum (and all the issues that creates).
With that said, I absolutely reject any form of stagism. We are all in this together. Whether you're stage 1 or stage 4, the fear and the human aspect of this disease are very real. I have learned an incredible amount - both here and other places - from people who have or had stage 1 cancer. On this board, I have learned a lot from Galean. But, if I correctly recall, BB was stage 2 when I first started lurking, and I have learned just as much from him before his recurrence. I've also learned a lot from weisssoccermom, who I believe is stage 1 (along with many others that are too numerous to mention).
While someone with stage 1 might not "get" exactly how I feel, there's probably not a person on this planet who would exactly "get" how I feel. However, every person I've met who had cancer understands how horrible this disease can be. Because of that, we share something unique in common and have a bond. As a result, I will give their opinions great consideration, even if I ultimately disagree.
We all come here to get support and, when possible, to offer support. Creating arbitrary divisions based what stage someone is (or was), or what particular word(s) people decide to use, is counterproductive. More important, its not healthy.
Just my 2 cents. Peace and love to all.