Postby Kathryn in MN » Wed May 30, 2012 8:42 pm
Not a medical professional - this is only my personal opinion after having done FOLFOX and having issues with it. I was only age 47, and otherwise very healthy, and FOLFOX almost killed me. I have had the discussion with my family that if I were older and had already raised my children and met my grandchildren, I absolutely would not do FOLFOX, and probably would not do any chemo - just surgery.
I would suggest talking with her oncologist and asking for the actual benefit of adjuvent chemo for her staging, and see if she really feels it is worth the risk. I might also go for a second opinion to another oncologist. I realize that some 81 year olds are in fantastic physical shape compared to others. My own grandmother is turning 100 in a couple weeks, and is still in pretty good health - she was doing great at 81. But chemo really affects quality of life, and especially Oxaliplatin can affect quality of life permanently - not just for the treatment duration. You really have to weigh the risks and possible benefits and decide on an individual basis. After watching what I went through, my own mother who is 72 said that she would not do chemo if she were dx'd with cancer now. She would do surgery, but no chemo at this point in her life. But she also said that at my age and with children to finish raising, that puts a whole different spin on things, and she would do it.
Also, if your mother does decide to do 5-FU or Xeloda she could try it and if it is too hard on her, she could stop. There is no rule that says if you agree to do it that you have to finish any specific number of tx. (I really am surprised if any oncologist would suggest Oxaliplatin for stage IIB at age 81, and would personally dismiss that idea. Just my opinion, but I know it is my oncologist's opinion too from conversations we have had.)