Postby weisssoccermom » Wed May 02, 2012 2:57 am
I'm really having a difficult time with the news about Terry. I've been on this board long enough to know that some people won't make it - they die from this disease. While it's never easy to lose one of our members, its HARD to even imagine not having Terry around. I just freaking talked to her on Wednesday! Flew out on Thursday to go to Chicago and told her I'd call her on Monday. She told me to enjoy my visit with Jon & Erik and to have fun at the soccer game. We would talk about DWTS, Missing, Celebrity Apprentice, our kids, hubbys and yet, we could still talk for hours about all sorts of things and yet really about nothing!!! Was so hoping that when her thyroid radiation was done she could talk better...and we could go back to our typical long conversations about whatever.
I don't know what to do or think. I pace around my house staring at all sorts of things that remind me of her. I got her hooked on Polish Pottery and as I stare at my collection, I wonder if Holly will appreciate it the same way Terry and I do??? Her Christmas present sits on the chair in my dining room - WHY do I have to see that box all the time??? All it does is remind me......remind me of the things we had planned to do. We should have gone to NYC last December but her doc said to cancel the trip because she would be recovering from surgery. We were going to see the city lit up at Christmastime, take in a performance of the Nutcracker and see the Rockettes Christmas Show. We've talked about how she & hubby want to see the Christmas tree lightening in Leavenworth, WA sometime with my hubby and me. I'm supposed to fly out to her house in three weeks to visit - she wants me to go fishing with her (I agreed to sit with her while SHE fished lol!) and to teach her to make my chocolate biscotti. It's supposed to be our 'girl time' - time to do whatever we want - talk, laugh, cook, laugh, take short walks, whatever we want to do - just our time together - our exclusive time - no husbands, no kids!
This morning I had flowers sent to Terry. Everytime she has been in the hospital, I would make sure that she received a vase full of yellow flowers with lemon slices in the water. The card would say something about making lemonade together - you know the saying.....'when life gives you lemons, make lemonade'. It was my way of telling Terry that together we could conquer anything TOGETHER....we would be optimistic - to not give up. I sent her my lemonade bouquet/card again this morning but there's no more lemonade - not this time.
I'm tired but can't sleep. I'm afraid to sleep....afraid of what the morning will and won't bring. I just want to talk to Terry again.....I want to turn back the clock and make things all better.....to make sure the surgeries do their job, to fix all the bad things that this crappy disease has caused. I want Terry to smile again, to hear her laugh and stop being in pain. Ok, I'm selfish, so what! I want my friend back and dang it, I DO want to make lemonade - one last time! I love you Terry and I want you to know....I NEED you to know that IF I could make lemonade this time I would.
Jaynee
Dx 6/22/2006 IIA rectal cancer
6 wks rad/Xeloda -finished 9/06
1st attempt transanal excision 11/06
11/17/06 XELOX 1 cycle
5 months Xeloda only Dec '06 - April '07
10+ blood clots, 1 DVT 1/07
transanal excision 4/20/07 path-NO CANCER CELLS!
NED now and forever!
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