Best Friend Put on Hospice Today

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deb1223
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Best Friend Put on Hospice Today

Postby deb1223 » Mon Apr 23, 2012 5:33 pm

When I was diagnosed with stage 4 cc in July 2010 my best friend moved back from Dallas to be with me. In Nov. of the same year she was diagnosed with Lung cancer. Sadly, today her onc told her there was nothing else they could do. After all available treatments her cancer is spreading everywhere. After she told me I held on until I got back into my car then broke down and cried like a baby. It dawned on me that we had shared so much for so long that I didn't even have anyone to call and talk to about this. Sorry, but you guys are the only real understanding sounding board I have. Hope you understand, my heart is breaking and even though I'm aware my day will come I don't even know what to say to her.

Debbie
52 Yr. old Female, DX July 2010
Stage IV CC, 21 mets to liver, 1 to lungs
12 Rounds Folfox
To date no surgeries
Enlarged spleen
Been on Avastin only since Mar. 2011
I WILL SURVIVE WITH GOD'S HELP!

SMR
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Re: Best Friend Put on Hospice Today

Postby SMR » Mon Apr 23, 2012 6:03 pm

I have no advice, or words of wisdom, but I want you to know how much I feel for you. I'll be thinking about you and your friend. I hope you both can find soe peace, though I have no idea how to even begin going about that...

Much love,
SMR
DH DX 10/11 st IV unkown prmry
FFOX 12/11
HIPEC 3/12
FFOX 5/12
7/12 FFIRI
12/12 xeloda
1/13 resection
2/13 FFIRI
4/13 5FU/Avastin
9/13 recurrence, failed surgery
Abdominal fistula
11/13 gemzar, heart attack
12/13 Carbo
2/14 Radiation
3/28/2014 passed

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Patience
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Re: Best Friend Put on Hospice Today

Postby Patience » Mon Apr 23, 2012 6:15 pm

Debbie, I am sorry you have such terrible news. The sadness of loosing a best friend is unique, and I am sorry you are faced with this. My heart feels for you.
"Sweet dreams till sunbeams find you.
Sweet dreams that leave all worries behind you."

esk2poo
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Re: Best Friend Put on Hospice Today

Postby esk2poo » Mon Apr 23, 2012 7:19 pm

Debbie,
Thoughts and prayers to you at this horrible time. You know you just have too be there for her. Nothing needs to be said, she just needs you by her.
Good luck and God bless
Allen
Dx 8/23/11 stage 3b crc
3 of 11 LN's
resection 9/15/11
folfox start 10/31/11 12 sessions
De-ported 6/2012
clear CT 7/2012
Clear colonoscopy 9/2012

Laurettas
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Re: Best Friend Put on Hospice Today

Postby Laurettas » Mon Apr 23, 2012 10:20 pm

I have no words of wisdom, only my new oft repeated phrase: Damn cancer.
DH 58 4/11 st 4 SRC CC
Lymph, peri, lung
4/11 colon res
5-10/11 FLFX, Av, FLFRI, Erb
11/11 5FU Erb
1/12 PET 2.4 Max act.
1/12 Erb
5/12 CT ext. new mets
5/12 Xlri
7/12 bad CT
8/12 5FU solo
8/12 brain met
9/12 stop tx
11/4/12 finished race,at peace

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Guinevere
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Re: Best Friend Put on Hospice Today

Postby Guinevere » Mon Apr 23, 2012 10:30 pm

My heart breaks for you and I'm so very sorry. This is a good place to come to vent or just share what you're going through. I'm just so sorry you have to travel this road with her but she couldn't have anyone better to travel it with.
God bless ~
Guinevere
Hrt atk - Feb 11
CRC4 DX - Apr 11
APR liver rsct, procto - Jul 11
Folfox/Avastin - Sep 11
Xeliri - Nov 11
Iritux - Jun 12
Break - Jan - Mar 13
Iritux - Mar 13
Stivarga - Aug 13
Folfiri - Oct 13
Exhausted treatment options - May 14

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CheeseHead
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Re: Best Friend Put on Hospice Today

Postby CheeseHead » Tue Apr 24, 2012 7:19 am

Debbie,

I'm so sorry for your friend and you.

Wishing you all the best,
Cheese
    2008
    10 Stg 4 colon srgry
    12 Xelox/Avast
    2009
    05 Liver srgry
    -12 Xelox
    2010
    05 Xelox
    08 Iri/Vect
    11 Liver srgry
    2011
    01-05 Iri,Vect,Xeloda
    09 CyberKnife
    2012
    03-07 Ph I trial
    08-11 Regorafenib
    2013-
    Xeloda
    Vecti
    Iri
    Xelox

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Re: Best Friend Put on Hospice Today

Postby AngieN » Tue Apr 24, 2012 7:53 am

Debbie, your post really touched my heart, as I'm potentially dealing with a similar situation. I was diagnosed with stage 2B CC in October. I had no support here at home and joined a number of cancer boards looking for help. On one of them I met a wonderful lady who helped me through my surgery and my journey so far through chemo. She had been in remission of ovarian cancer for almost 5 years. About 3 months ago, another met was discovered and her remission is over. She started chemo and was not able to tolerate it. She meets with her oncologist this afternoon to see if there is a plan B available to her. I've never met this wonderful lady - she lives far away from me in OK., I'm in NY. - but she's become my best friend. I completely understand where you're coming from - I have no idea what I will say to her if the news is bad today. I wish I could go and be with her, but I'm still in treatment myself and can't go.

My heart goes out to you and your friend - I wish you the best.

deb1223
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Re: Best Friend Put on Hospice Today

Postby deb1223 » Tue Apr 24, 2012 10:01 am

Thanks everyone for your kind loving words. Please just keep us in your prayers.
Debbie
52 Yr. old Female, DX July 2010
Stage IV CC, 21 mets to liver, 1 to lungs
12 Rounds Folfox
To date no surgeries
Enlarged spleen
Been on Avastin only since Mar. 2011
I WILL SURVIVE WITH GOD'S HELP!

alphagam
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Re: Best Friend Put on Hospice Today

Postby alphagam » Tue Apr 24, 2012 10:31 am

Please accept my heartfelt sympathies. A friend's loss will affect you forever.
Dx Feb 2010 4 cm tumor, just inside rectum
EUS stated T3 tumor
2nd opinion, need better path
Mar 2010 transanal surgery. Surgery by board certified CRS found tumor only in lining
6 exams of surg site, 3 PET, 3 scopes laterNED.
Scope in Mar2015, clean colon
Next scope/test in 3 years

NedPlease
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Re: Best Friend Put on Hospice Today

Postby NedPlease » Tue Apr 24, 2012 12:05 pm

I'm so sorry.
F-54- St 4- Ascend Colon, 2 Liver mets, Poorly dif, Mutant
6/10- Folfox
9/10- R Liver Resect/Colon/Gall/Appendix
11/10-3/11- Folfox
11/11- R Lung, 1 met, VATS
3/12- 9/12- Xeloda
2/12- 6/18 Clear Scans
6/19- first time no scan
Today- NED

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Re: Best Friend Put on Hospice Today

Postby sheilahincy » Wed Apr 25, 2012 12:01 am

I am so sorry. My Grandmother gave something special before she died from Ovarian cancer. She told me when you see the cloud as it floats by with the sun shinning through. Those will be memories that we shared together. Close your eyes and think of me and I will touch your heart and place my arms around you. I will be with you. Keep your friend close and watch the sky for that special cloud that the two of you can share.

God Bless
Sheila
12-20-2011 diag Stg 4 Colon with one spot on both lungs
12-20-2011 Surgery to remove cancer from colon
02-1-2012 Started Chemo witva/Ox/5-Fl
03-26-2012 new Ct liver leasons
05-14-2012 rib leasons found
05-24-2012 folfri/ava


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