The Colon Club

Dear Ilse,
I came online to post about my brother who passed away today and I saw yours. I'm so so so sorry. I really feel your pain right now. My brother and your husband Pete passed away the same day. cancer sucks but colon cancer sucks more. when someone suffers and can't live a sample quality life, death is beautiful and need to be welcomed. For the past two months my brother was experiencing the same of what you described of your husband. My deepest and sincere sympathy to you and your family. Take care.
weza

Dear Ilse,
My deepest sympathies to you and your family. May your dear Pete rest in peace.
Christine

Peteswife wrote:My darling husband Peter Muller earned his Angel wings this morning at 06:30. He is now in Heaven and has no pain!
Thanks to all the good wishes, prayers etc. We really appreciate!
Love to all who is still in this battle. We had it for 8,5 years, and we fought!
Ilse Muller

Ilse,
I'm just heartbroken for you and the family!! What a blessing ya'll won the Valentine photo contest this last February. I'll be praying for you and the family and so glad you can get a blessing from knowing ya'll fought the beast for 8½ years.
God bless ~
Guinevere
(Mighty Queen fighting the beast too!)

I will always admire the strength and courage with which you and your dear husband fought this disease. May he rest in peace. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Ilse,
My, 8.5 years. How very brave and strong both you have been. I am so sorry that Pete is gone. I pray for peace for you and your family.

Aloha,
Kathleen

Ilse

You are so strong and all your posts showed the depth of your love and support for Pete. Sincere sympathies to yiu

Thank you for all you letters. I really appreciate them all! I know the lonely days will still struck me, when all is gone and the house is empty, and I don't have to do everything for Peter anymore. But, I know he is at peace. We went to the funeral services today, I had to sign him of for cremation. We saw him for the last time, and he was laying there so peacefully! This is the picture I want to remember. Not the Peter that battled to breath on Tuesday morning. I am so glad me and the two kids and my MIL went there. Now we have a picture in our minds that looks better for the last time.

We are planning the best funeral for him - he was always good to us! Now it is time to give back. He has the most beautiful casket with a dome, and also silver bars on the side. He is going to be in the portal of the church when all the people come in. Then the minister will have the servcice, and read 8 eulogies of people who does'nt want to speak, because they are too emotional. Then we have to speakers, One Afrikaans one for our family, and then Peter's brother in law for his English family. Michelle prepared a power point presentation with songs in the background of his Friends, Family, Direct close family, and also himself. The power point presentations is about 14 minutes and she is so proud of that. She has "In the arms of the angels, Things my fater said, Song for my dad and another one playing while the people can wantch the photo's Then in the front of the Church we will have a big A2 picture that will be in a proffessional fram standing on a easel next to the flowers. Big bouquet of white different flowers. And the his personalized carregistration will be there PEM 007 GP. He got it back the day he went to hospital, and that is his trademark. I never tried to follow because mine would look like "IM 007", ( I am 007). How can I do that to him. We are expecting about 200 to 230 people at this stage. I really hope they all come. He would have really enjoyed his party!

As I said, we discussed his whole funeral on the easter weekend. We knew exactly what he wanted.! I think we are going to have a beautiful celebration of his life. Please hold thumbs!

Love to you all!
Ilse
(Pete's wife)

Peter would be so proud of the send off you are giving him llse , hope all goes well , have you set a date ??

@Jimswife, I think Ilse mentioned the funeral would be today. Don't know if those plans have changed...

Hope the funeral goes/went well and was indeed a celebration of his life... sounds like you did all you could to make it so.

Cheese

So sorry Ilse. I can't imagine your grief, and especially what it was like to deal with this for 8.5 years. Thank you for letting us know.

Namaste,
Julia

Thank you so much for all the prayers, thoughts, messages etc. We as a family, and especially me, appreciate your way of caring vary much! We were such a close family, and we will miss him so so so very much! It was a big funeral. There was 200 plus people coming from all over. I wish he could have seen who was there! You always wonder who will be at your funeral. I think everybody had wondered about that, and I was so surprised to see how the people care. Peter was a lover, not a fighter, and the people really cared about him. Our daughter Michelle had her own fairwell wishes to him, and she surprised me so much on the day for being so calm - but she claims she is a teacher and she has to speak up no matter what mood you are in. She just mentioned that I am the fighter in the family, she wonders if there will be anybody left when it is my time. But this is only a joke! I love her! And I know she means well and has her fathers sense of humor!

Thanks for being part of this club, I learned so much from all of you - and I really wish you all just good healthy days. No pain! I've been through it from the caregivers side, and I hope I never have to see somebody I love suffer so much ever again!

All my love
Ilse Muller
(Pete's wife)

God bless you and your family

I'm so sorry for the loss you and your children are having to endure, but happy to know Pete is not suffering any longer. I can see from your post and your previous posts that you were ready (as ready as one can be) when the time came because of your love for him and not wanting him in pain. You have been a wonderful wife and caregiver to him.

You and your family are in my prayers for strength.
Terry

I am so sorry for your loss.
Praying for peace for you and your family.
Candy