Jimswife wrote:My husband has never said have or has ??? I'm referring to what I've heard or read other people saying .
Well, then, why not ask him, and then follow his lead?
I was in NYC once for a consult with Dr. Personality, and my mother was traveling with me. I was very tired, and was trying to nap in the room. A maid came with extra towels and my mother took them from her and volunteered that I was sleeping "because I had cancer and was taking chemo." I'm very open about my cancer, but for some reason my mother volunteering this information to a complete stranger really pissed me off. It was completely unnecessar
I share this, Jimswife, because it sounds like you're trying to figure out how to discuss your husband's medical condition and treatment without knowing how JIM feels about it. Outside of a support forum, where it's common for caregivers to come online while patients don't, I can't think of a situation where that kind of conversation would even come up. It'd be harder still to think of a time outside a conversation on my behalf with a medical professional that I'd be comfortable having my spouse or other family member describe my condition.
I mean, outside of a support group or a doc appointment (or those forms), why would anyone but the patient even be bringing this subject up?
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2/11 recurrence R lung, spinal bone mets - chemo, RFA lung mets
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