I suggest you re-read what you posted Sylvie.
You have been scoped (which you posted to tell us), but here you say, "Am I going to listen to getting scoped 10 years prior to when your mother was diagnosed? Of course not." This is just one point of many I can make from your post that show you seem to only be looking for a fight.
You've stated you wouldn't change anything except maybe diet and exercise. Well get of your butt and do that now! It certainly can't hurt you, and might help. With your attitude a negative result from testing could be detrimental - if the only way you are going to live as healthy as you can is if there is a postive result for genetic testing. There is a very high chance you are at increased risk due to genetics, but NOT the type that will show up with testing. It would be very rare for this to be Lynch considering the facts you've given us about ages and dx. Do what you CAN do now. Consider you've had a warning that colon cancer is something to watch for and try to prevent, and do all you can with diet, exercise and screening of yourself - the one person you DO have control over. You can't control the decisions others make, but you can control your own.
Sadly you've chosen to fight with the very people that can understand what you are going through - others that have colon cancer or are caregivers or family members of thsoe with colon cancer. You aren't looking for information or opinions from those who have WAY more experience with this subject than you do. Nope - you were looking for people to validate your opinion of your mother and her choice of not having testing done. And when you didn't get that, you turned ugly.
You don't want to hear any opinion or facts that might disagree with what you have already decided. So I really wonder why did you bother to even post in the first place? Only to provoke people? You've been very rude to people who were only trying to help you and trying to explain things that they DO have knowledge of because they are LIVING it. I personally DID have genetic testing done. Just because I support your mother's right to choose no testing doesn't mean I am ignorant about genetic testing.
While many of us do not agree on many things here, with a very rare exception everyone has other's best interests in mind, and shows respect to each other. It is rather upsetting when someone comes in asking for help and disrespects everyone who doesn't agree with them. If you aren't open to getting feedback and opinions, then DO NOT POST ASKING FOR IT. It really is that simple.
sylvie32 wrote:You all have valid points, but I wonder, why is everyone suggesting that the testing will not be meaningful or even valid because so many mutations have not been discovered yet? According to the link I posted, with DNA sequencing, 95% of mutation ARE known, and if one is discovered in one family member, it can be detected if existent in a family member with 100% accuracy.
What is wrong with not wanting a dark cloud over my head the rest of my life, and more importantly, my children? Am I going to listen to getting scoped "10 years prior to when your mother was diagnosed?" Of course not. My mother was diagnosed with advanced cancer. No one knows when it started, so there is a fallacy in this argument right there. Secondly, people barely past their teens can develop cancer. What is the point of waiting for some imaginary age line that needs to be crossed first?
I am sad about my mother, and I don't want her to die, but this is a woman in her 70s who has never had in her entire life a pap smear or a mammogram, because she was always too freaked out or too fatalistic or both to take care of her health. Even the colonoscopy she had as a routine procedure (because of her sister) was half-assed - no pun intended - they only did the lower part of the colon, which means they probably missed the tumor she ended up being diagnosed with. Let's just say my mother's judgment in these things is not entirely trustworthy. She just dismisses certain things with the rationale that something is going to kill you in the end. The problem with that is that she wants me to accept this nonsense as intelligent reasoning and stick my head in the sand as well.
Jaynee, and others who wonder how testing would change anything - no, I would not have anything removed, but I would be more, much more vigilant and proactive as life style figures hugely in colon cancer, including the hereditary kind. It is, I suppose, a matter of how diligent with diet and exercise I would be.
I am sorry, but I really do respect all of you here who are suffering and living with this disease, and I do not mean any disrespect, but I am taken aback by the belligerence of some people here, telling me to drop it and move on. Once you are talking about a potentially hereditary disease, it's not just about the patient anymore who has the disease, it is about the rest of us. She already has it. If she cared at all about us she would make available every possible means to prevent us from getting this disease as well. It isn't guilt over passing this perhaps on to us, as someone here charitably suggests. It's just that in her mind it's all about her, but in my opinion, we are already past that. It is time to worry about the symptom-free in the family, and what is going to happen to them.
I am surprised by the unanimous support of my mother's position. You guys almost make it sound like you never heard of genetic testing and that it was invented solely for my pleasure. People have it done all the time. I don't understand you at all...