AngelaN.........
YES friends can be dim-witted when it comes to actually "being a friend" when it comes to "the BIG C". I have known a "close friend" for a little longer than I've known hubby..... 34 years. I have listened to her trials & tribulations, including several hip surgeries, other "scares", and lots of life's pains in the butt....etc, etc. I have listened, encouraged, laughed & cried with her every inch of the way.
Half way thru our chemo journey things "
changed". She still calls, happily yacking & venting about whatever..... then when it comes to my turn...... she cuts me short, & either turns the conversation back to her.... or conveniently "has to go because_________ (fill in the blank). She also gave me poop about mentioned forgetting to make a fruit smoothie for hubby and getting up at 1:30 to make it (he left that morning really early).
HE LOVES THEM..... we have a whole routine of stuff I have ready for his "breakfast". It makes his day.... AND he actually told me that night that he heard the blender whirrrrrrring late at night and smiled
'BECAUSE SOMEBODY LOVED HIM".
HEY.... if it makes him smile......... I'm going to do it. After her telling me that I was crazy and he could have done without........... I conveniently "had to go because_________ (fill in the blank). Turn about is fair play right?
Don't think I will be calling her for a loooooooooooooong while............ or just keep up my new routine to see if she "GET IT"
YES life is a series of appointments, research, and other FUN stuff. Think i need a short jaunt to Nordstrom's
Wife of Mike,
Vicki