Wives of husbands with Stage IV Colon Freaking Cancer

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Re: Wives of husbands with Stage IV Colon Freaking Cancer

Postby ronswife » Thu Mar 09, 2017 6:07 am

inorganic8 wrote:Hi,

This is my first post here. My husband was diagnosed with stage IV CRC at the end of January. He has mets to the peritoneum wall, the omentum, and maybe the liver. The liver mets seem to be on the surface and may actually be on the peritoneum and just crushed up against the liver. He has started Folfirinox and has had two treatments. He has tolerated them reasonably well. He is being treated at the Moffitt Cancer Center. We have seen two doctors there, one oncologist and one surgeon. His cancer is currently inoperable. The oncologist wrote him off at our first consultation and said the best we could expect with the chemo was 2 to 3 years. The surgeon is more optimistic.

My husband is 42 years old. Other than this cancer thing, he's very healthy. Great blood work, some extra weight, gets a decent amount of exercise. There's hope, right? Will these black balls of anxiety in our stomachs ever let up?

One day at a time... one day at a time... one day at a time...


Why is your husband's cancer inoperable, if the liver mets seemed to be on the surface?

The VERY best to him and I am praying for both of you! I lost my Ron on 12/29/16.

:)
Husband Ron diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer on 3/15/16, right after first colonoscopy at age 68. Had surgery to remove tumor on 3/31/16. Many mets on top and bottom of liver that are not resectable. Started chemo 4/28/16 using Fluorouracil (5-FU) and Irinotecan. Started Erbitux 5/26 on third chemo. Had very good results on 7/14 CT scan!! Treated with Avastin and Capecitabine 8/4/16. CT on 10/18 showed cancer growth. Now on FOLFOX. Placed in Hospice in early December and passed away 12/29/16.

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Re: Wives of husbands with Stage IV Colon Freaking Cancer

Postby LPL » Tue Mar 14, 2017 6:07 pm

inorganic8 wrote:
LPL,
HIPEC is a possibility. There is a surgeon at Moffitt who performs the procedure. Not sure how insurance will treat it, but we'll cross that bridge when we come to it. Our current surgeon has spoken with the resident HIPEC expert and they have agreed that my husband may be eligible for a tag-team surgery between the two of them. I understand there are risks associated with the procedure and their is some controversy, still, my husband is hoping to eventually pursue this.


It does sound like your surgeon is having a plan for your husband and that a surgery can be a reality for him :)
I was wondering if you saw member SarahS's post viewtopic.php?f=1&t=57469
It sounds like both your husbands are recently diagnosed at the same age, stage IV, and both having perituneum mets.

Hoping your husband's chemo is going well and that he is still tolerating the chemo without having too many side effects.
How are You doing with the 'black balls of anxiety' ? I hope they are shrinking ! I have some that are growing a little now because of an upcoming CT Scan and blood tests that hubby will have in a couple of weeks.

All the best to you !
One day at a time
/LPL
DH @65 Emergency colostomy 3/18/16
DX: CC recto-sigmoid junction 4/11
Adenocarcenoma pt 35x15x9mm G3(biopsi) G1(surgical)
Mets:3 Liver resectable
T4aN1bM1a Stage IVa 2/9 Ln
MSS, KRAS-mut G13D
CEA & CA19-9: 5/18 2.5 78 8/17 1.4 48 2/14/17 1.8 29
Chemo: 4 Folfox 6/15-7/30 (b4 liver surgery) 8 after
CT: 8/8 no change
:!: Steroid induced hyperglycemia dx after 3chemo .. hospitalized, insulin -> Metformin
Surgeries (open resections):
3/18 Colostomy 5/23 Primary+gallbl+colostomy reversal (+port) 9/01 Liver mets

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Re: Wives of husbands with Stage IV Colon Freaking Cancer

Postby SarahS » Tue Mar 14, 2017 7:44 pm

Hello LPL, hello everyone

You are correct my husband and inorganic's have a very similar situation.
While it is comforting to find other people in the same situation , it saddens me just how prevalent this is becoming in younger people.
This board has been a great comfort to me ever since my husbands diagnosis, where I discovered it whilst sitting in his room waiting for him to come out of surgery
Wife and caregiver to husband diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer Nov 2016
Emergency surgery to remove blockage in cecum 12/03/2016
Stage 4 colon cancer. Mets to liver, peritoneum, possibly lungs
K-Ras mutant MSS
01/05/2017 Begin Folfox 6 plus Avastin
CEA pre surgery 114, post surgery 70, 02/2017- 35 03/2017- 23

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Re: Wives of husbands with Stage IV Colon Freaking Cancer

Postby mhf1986 » Tue Mar 14, 2017 8:16 pm

inorganic8 wrote:Hi,

This is my first post here. My husband was diagnosed with stage IV CRC at the end of January. He has mets to the peritoneum wall, the omentum, and maybe the liver. The liver mets seem to be on the surface and may actually be on the peritoneum and just crushed up against the liver. He has started Folfirinox and has had two treatments. He has tolerated them reasonably well. He is being treated at the Moffitt Cancer Center. We have seen two doctors there, one oncologist and one surgeon. His cancer is currently inoperable. The oncologist wrote him off at our first consultation and said the best we could expect with the chemo was 2 to 3 years. The surgeon is more optimistic.

My husband is 42 years old. Other than this cancer thing, he's very healthy. Great blood work, some extra weight, gets a decent amount of exercise. There's hope, right? Will these black balls of anxiety in our stomachs ever let up?

One day at a time... one day at a time... one day at a time...


Saying hello and sending you hugs...we are in similar situation and similar timing. Oncologist said inoperable because he believes if they can't get at all, there's no point in going in so enjoy the next 2-3 years on chemo. I find that odd, why not reduce the tumor burden? Why do some many doctors just waive their hands and send us home to cry? We haven't seen a surgeon. Since DH is responding well to FOLFOX, we are going to continue that for now. If the tumors in the liver continue to shrink and the ascites continue to shrink, I'm going to bring up surgery again. Or HAI or HIPEC. Or a new oncologist. or SOMETHING.

Melissa
Caregiver to DH, diagnosed age 50, mets to liver, ascites near stomach
10/16: hemicolectomy, colostomy, liver biopsy
11/16: FOLFOX starts, Avastian added 12/16
2/17: CT scan shows at least 1 tumor shrinking, CEA down from 114 to 31
3/17: CEA down to 14, Avastian removed for now until BP comes down

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Greetings from Australia

Postby aussie.laura » Wed Mar 15, 2017 8:46 am

Hello every1,
It is almost a matter of "copy and paste" with almost everything is been talked about here. :(
I am a newbie in the forum. I live in Brisbane, Australia.
A few weeks ago, we went for a drive to the sunshine coast. Russ only drove for 35 minutes and he couldn't keep on going. His energy levels are very low. Anyway, I took over and hooked my phone to the Bluetooth of the car and of we went listening to Pandora radio. There were a few songs playing that i needed to pretend having a sneeze attack only because I was containing my tears. I'm keeping a
stoic and positive attitude when I'm with Russ, but I'm truly scared to death. I can't lose him and I don't know if this kind of thing ever goes into remission. The doctors are just telling us that it's a bad cancer and that they'll treat it aggressively with chemo (and hopefully, a new drug that is supposed to shut down receptors on colon tumors...
I'm honestly not sure how to manage my emotions but like I said before, in front of him, I look strong.
I hate the way that our lives have changed. I hate the thought of losing him. I hate the thought of feeling empty and seeing my life without a purpose if I lose him. I hate the fact that I can't do anything for the cancer to go away.
Once, the purpose of my existence was my son. Waking up every morning and being thankful for the joy of motherhood. Now he's building his own life and I enjoy every day seeing him doing what he loves and spreading kindness with that gorgeous smile of his... Since he left the nest, my focus turned to be the best partner that I could to my absolutely perfect man.
Our pretty much "perfect" life went to an unexpected grey cloud where I can see the sun only because I HAVE to. I'm terribly scared. I'm terribly sad. I can't find the answers I need. This is to me like a punishment. I wish I could explain it better... I'm so sorry for the frustrating post but I need to get it out.
Now on the medical side of things:
My husband was diagnosed with stage IV CRC the 4th of August 2016. He was operated a few days after diagnosis and a large tumor was removed from the colon. He had 80% blockage and he had a port installed in early September last year…
He has mets to the peritoneum wall, and the liver. He waited 6 weeks and started with chemo (fluorouracil 5-FU, avastin combo). After 2 months on this, Pet scan showed mets on the liver. They changed chemo to Eurbitux, which apparently works for cancers with certain gene mutations.
Today was the last chemo = eurbitux combo before test and scans. If everything is working as it should, will be another 4 months on this regime. However, Eurbitux will be something that he will have for the rest of his life.
Russell is 53 years old. He received the “Free test” sent by the government when he reached 50 but completely refused to "poo in a tube" and threw the test in the bin... 2 and half years later he was diagnosed with stage IV. FML!!!
Caring for him is an emotional challenge...I have good days, bad days and everything in between. Sometimes I need just to say: "I am at the edge of tears, please talk to me".

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Re: Wives of husbands with Stage IV Colon Freaking Cancer

Postby LPL » Thu Mar 16, 2017 10:19 pm

Hi Laura in Australia,

It is very good that you found 'us', that you found Colon Club. This is such a good place to 'not feel alone', to get support, kindness, and strength from sharing/hearing of others stories & also hope of remission! We can post our frustration here and others understand!

I am so sorry your husband has gotten this cancer diagnose and that your world as you knew it has been turned 'upside down'. We are many here who know exactly what you mean when you describe the grey cloud and feeling So scared and lost. I remember (screaming - alone in our house) wondering what my hubby (and I) had done wrong to deserve this.

Let me say one thing before I continue writing - I understand how you might feel about the free test that was not done... but my husband, he did do the "free tests" and he never got any result that recommended further tests, like a colonoscopy. As I understand it these tests are unfortunately not so reliable. My hubby's 1st symptom was a total block that needed an emergency surgery, a colostomi, because the surgeon was afraid that his colon would brake..

It sounds as your husband have good Doctors who are going to treat aggressively and I hope you will get good news on the upcoming test and scans. Members here write about "scanxiety".. mine is building up (tests at end of March) can you be feeling that scanxiety too?

What can we as caregivers do?
Personally, to be able to 'help', I needed to read, read and read to try to understand this 'new language'. Make sure we got our own copies of all of hubby's test results. Questions to the Doctors (unfortunately not all are great communicators).
One thing that sort of helped me see what questions to ask was seeing here on Colon Club what was good to have in the signature.
You said: "I can't find the answers I need", do you mean via reading or asking?

I hope your coming days will be good days and if not - know you can post about it here. Your son sounds like a lovely person that can create good feelings. Maybe hard to share all your emotions with him? At least that is my experience with my kids, I do not want them to worry too much..

All the best to you Laura !
DH @65 Emergency colostomy 3/18/16
DX: CC recto-sigmoid junction 4/11
Adenocarcenoma pt 35x15x9mm G3(biopsi) G1(surgical)
Mets:3 Liver resectable
T4aN1bM1a Stage IVa 2/9 Ln
MSS, KRAS-mut G13D
CEA & CA19-9: 5/18 2.5 78 8/17 1.4 48 2/14/17 1.8 29
Chemo: 4 Folfox 6/15-7/30 (b4 liver surgery) 8 after
CT: 8/8 no change
:!: Steroid induced hyperglycemia dx after 3chemo .. hospitalized, insulin -> Metformin
Surgeries (open resections):
3/18 Colostomy 5/23 Primary+gallbl+colostomy reversal (+port) 9/01 Liver mets

ronswife
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Re: Wives of husbands with Stage IV Colon Freaking Cancer

Postby ronswife » Fri Mar 17, 2017 6:07 am

Laura,

I agree with LPL's post. Everything you said rang really true for me. I did lose my precious Ron to stage 4 colon cancer on 12/29/16.

Since then it has been very hard coping. His funeral was 1/3/17 and I am finally completing the mailings of the funeral thank you cards.

Praying for you. Hang in there honey!

:(
Husband Ron diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer on 3/15/16, right after first colonoscopy at age 68. Had surgery to remove tumor on 3/31/16. Many mets on top and bottom of liver that are not resectable. Started chemo 4/28/16 using Fluorouracil (5-FU) and Irinotecan. Started Erbitux 5/26 on third chemo. Had very good results on 7/14 CT scan!! Treated with Avastin and Capecitabine 8/4/16. CT on 10/18 showed cancer growth. Now on FOLFOX. Placed in Hospice in early December and passed away 12/29/16.


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