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Re: Sexual implications of colon resection--can we talk?

Posted: Thu Jul 13, 2017 10:13 am
by mhf1986
JEP, none that I noticed in 11 weeks. We had an early discussion about sex after a colostomy and his opinion was "not happening" and mine was "let me know when you're ready" then I let the subject drop. The colostomy still drives a lot of his temperment these days, more so than the chemo even.

We had gone out to dinner at a Mexican place the night before with 3 other people and it was a lovely night getting out and away. I'm not saying nachos=erections but perhaps it was the normalcy of it. Perhaps a lot of it is mental.

M

Re: Sexual implications of colon resection--can we talk?

Posted: Thu Jul 13, 2017 8:00 pm
by Pyro
I had 2 liver surgeries and complete removal of 12" of colon with a permanent colostomy, viagra is the only thing that worked.

Re: Sexual implications of colon resection--can we talk?

Posted: Thu Jul 13, 2017 9:10 pm
by jep
Pyro: we have a 6 yr old and an almost 9 yr old....you've been through so much...Thank you for your response....my DH's port goes in tomorrow, so we seem to be toward the beginning of this journey. Chemo starts on Monday, so our plan is to just live, love, and as always, family first.
Thanks,
jep

Re: Sexual implications of colon resection--can we talk?

Posted: Fri Jul 14, 2017 10:11 am
by Jacques
jep wrote:...So, I told my DH to relax and that it may take time for those nerves to "wake up"...

In this article it says that it may take up to 2 years for recovery...
https://www.oncolink.org/support/sexuality-fertility/sexuality/erectile-dysfunction-after-cancer-treatment

Re: Sexual implications of colon resection--can we talk?

Posted: Sat Jul 15, 2017 12:03 pm
by Tdubz
No problems here, but my onc said no sex since the chemo could be bad for the wife. I was told basically that any exchange of bodily fluids can be harmful to the other person.

Re: Sexual implications of colon resection--can we talk?

Posted: Tue Jul 18, 2017 1:10 am
by BIG ROB 69
Before all this cancer crap, I was a stud. All my life I've had a high libido. Butt it is very difficult making love with two tubes sticking out of my belly, wondering if I'm gonna pass some chemo-disease to my partner in the fluid transfer, all the while hoping I don't have to run to the bathroom...(cheeks, stay together!) A lot of this is mental. Good luck...and if you just be there for him, he is a very lucky man.

Re: Sexual implications of colon resection--can we talk?

Posted: Tue Jul 18, 2017 8:27 am
by Utwo
Tdubz wrote:I was told basically that any exchange of bodily fluids can be harmful to the other person.

There is an easy and cheap solution for this.