Sexual implications of colon resection--can we talk?

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mhf1986
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Re: Sexual implications of colon resection--can we talk?

Postby mhf1986 » Thu Jul 13, 2017 10:13 am

JEP, none that I noticed in 11 weeks. We had an early discussion about sex after a colostomy and his opinion was "not happening" and mine was "let me know when you're ready" then I let the subject drop. The colostomy still drives a lot of his temperment these days, more so than the chemo even.

We had gone out to dinner at a Mexican place the night before with 3 other people and it was a lovely night getting out and away. I'm not saying nachos=erections but perhaps it was the normalcy of it. Perhaps a lot of it is mental.

M
Caregiver to DH, dx age 50, mets to liver, MSS, KRAS wild
10/16: hemicolectomy, colostomy, CEA 114
11/16: FOLFOX, Avastian added 12/16
2/17: CT shows 1 liver tumor shrinking, CEA 31
4/17: CEA 11, blood pressure medicine added
5/17: 1mm growth to lung nodes? liver stable, CEA 15, OX discontinued due to neuropathy
6/17: CEA 12, 7/17 CEA 14

Pyro
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Re: Sexual implications of colon resection--can we talk?

Postby Pyro » Thu Jul 13, 2017 8:00 pm

I had 2 liver surgeries and complete removal of 12" of colon with a permanent colostomy, viagra is the only thing that worked.
Aug 2015 - Diag Stage 4 CC with numerous mets to liver (38/m)
Sep 2015 - Avastin/Folfox/Iron
Dec 2015 - Told not a surgery candidate for liver
Jan 2016 - Erbitux/Folfiri, 2nd opinion at MD Anderson in TX
Feb 2016 - MD Anderson liver surgery approved, Dr. Vauthey
Mar 2016 - 30% of left lobe removed, PVE
May 2016 - 70% of liver removed, liver cancer free.
Jun 2016 - Xeloda 3K mg, 28 day radiation cycle for colon
Husband, father of 6 & 9 year old, losing dream job due to diag
Colon surgery in Sep at MD!

jep
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Re: Sexual implications of colon resection--can we talk?

Postby jep » Thu Jul 13, 2017 9:10 pm

Pyro: we have a 6 yr old and an almost 9 yr old....you've been through so much...Thank you for your response....my DH's port goes in tomorrow, so we seem to be toward the beginning of this journey. Chemo starts on Monday, so our plan is to just live, love, and as always, family first.
Thanks,
jep
Husband DX Stage IV CC on May 16, 2017
47 years old
Tumor Location: recto-sigmoid
Tumor type: Adenocarcinoma
Tumor size: 7.4 cm
Tumor grade: G3
TNM code: T3N2M1
Positive lymph nodes: 8 out of 20
Baseline CEA value: .9
LVI: present
Perineural invasion: present
Surgical margins: clear (w/in microns)
Primary surgery type: LAR

Jacques
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Re: Sexual implications of colon resection--can we talk?

Postby Jacques » Fri Jul 14, 2017 10:11 am

jep wrote:...So, I told my DH to relax and that it may take time for those nerves to "wake up"...

In this article it says that it may take up to 2 years for recovery...
https://www.oncolink.org/support/sexuality-fertility/sexuality/erectile-dysfunction-after-cancer-treatment
DX(2012): RC
Stage IIc,T4b N0 M0 L0 PN1 H0 D0 P0 I1
LAR
MSI: not tested
Chimio-radiothérapie
Chimiothérapie adjuvante : capécitabine + oxaliplatine
CEA < 1.0,
5 years NED,
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Tdubz
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Re: Sexual implications of colon resection--can we talk?

Postby Tdubz » Sat Jul 15, 2017 12:03 pm

No problems here, but my onc said no sex since the chemo could be bad for the wife. I was told basically that any exchange of bodily fluids can be harmful to the other person.

BIG ROB 69
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Re: Sexual implications of colon resection--can we talk?

Postby BIG ROB 69 » Tue Jul 18, 2017 1:10 am

Before all this cancer crap, I was a stud. All my life I've had a high libido. Butt it is very difficult making love with two tubes sticking out of my belly, wondering if I'm gonna pass some chemo-disease to my partner in the fluid transfer, all the while hoping I don't have to run to the bathroom...(cheeks, stay together!) A lot of this is mental. Good luck...and if you just be there for him, he is a very lucky man.
3/18/2015 DX CC Stage3/4 49YO MALE IN NEW YORK
Inoperable...hepatic artery
11/15 oper to rem block...colon bypass
4/16 oper to remove scar tissue
5/16 Lynch pos.
10/16 Two bile tubes installed to relieve jaundice
So far I have done the three main chemo drug rounds and on 12/19/16 start Keytruda.
No chemo after 8/3/16 CEA: 10/14/16-409 12/19/16- 887 Mostly my CEA was in the 140-180 range.
CEA: 1/9/17-415 1/30/17-156.2 2/20/17-120.8 3/13/17-98 4/21/17-83.6 5/12/17-64.7 6/1/17-32.1

Utwo
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Re: Sexual implications of colon resection--can we talk?

Postby Utwo » Tue Jul 18, 2017 8:27 am

Tdubz wrote:I was told basically that any exchange of bodily fluids can be harmful to the other person.

There is an easy and cheap solution for this.
58 yo male at diagnosis - T1bN0, 0/15 lymph nodes, low grade/moderately differentiated adenocarcinoma
03/2016 colonoscopy #1: 2 small polyps removed in left colon; CEA = 1.3
04/2016 colonoscopy #2: caecum sessile 3.5 cm polyp piecemeal removed
05/2016 CT scan, blood test ...
05/2016 laparoscopic right hemicolectomy with a few complications (bleeding, leak, infection)
06/2017 CT scan, colonoscopy OK; CEA = 1.6


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