Terry wrote:To be completely fair, the original post by Gaelen on "When doctors disagree" was changed so not everyone is seeing what caused this. cptmac was basicly embarrassed by the original post. I know this because I reported it and then it was changed.
underline added by GaelenOkay - since the moderators have elected to leave this all in public view, let's get this timeline straight so that everyone in the cheap seats can follow the action. And let's use the names in our out-loud voices, so we can all see how this kind of situation shakes out all too often on this forum. Popcorn, anyone? Oops - maybe not on this board!
- Cptmac posted an article as a reference which contained some misconceptions and errors.
- I replied, pointing out the errors in the referenced article, and suggesting that we all be careful not to cite as references stuff which is incorrect.
Note - I corrected errors in the article. I did not at any time attack cptmac for posting it, try to 'silence' her, or infringe on her interpretation of the 'rights of free speech' - which btw don't apply to posters on private forums like Colon Club. - Terry says she complained about my post.
- A moderator edited my post without leaving any notice that the post had been edited - I didn't know it had been changed until Terry mentioned that in this thread.
- Cptmac then created a new thread in which she personally attacked me - not my ideas, but me.
- A few other posters decided to pile on - missjv, Terry, CRGuy all got a couple shots in.
- That thread, with negative comments aimed not at my ideas,
but directly AT ME, is live - although locked - for everyone to read.
- The personal attacks extended into another thread when boweltumor criticized me for a response I made to Brownbagger's news about his lung met and question about future lung capacity. That post is also still live, unedited. About a page later is a vague 'oh, I didn't mean to offend' comment. Name me directly to put me down - but don't apologize to me directly?
I disagree with ideas - and my post is edited because someone is embarrassed that I disagreed.
Other posters attack individual posters - repeatedly and often - and their posts usually remain live, unedited.
Threads are started here to attack other posters - and those threads are allowed to remain on the board.
This creates an atmosphere not of support but of board bullying.
I'm an admin on two other boards, and I'm all about letting a community manage its own standards - when they can be mature enough to do that. I contacted the admins and moderators and said, ok, when is enough going to be enough? Liz responded, and I thanked her but clearly it wasn't enough of a response because those of you in this thread clearly don't get how inappopriate your behavior has become. The personal attack behavior continues, and you people are even arguing
with the moderator. Where personal behavior standards are concerned, this community has none...or the standards for interpersonal respect are just abysmally low. And that situation makes it not a very supportive place if for whatever reason you ever happen to disagree with one of the board bullies.
Board bullies attack people, rather than disagree with ideas. I have never, ever done that, so no, despite how I've been characterized by some of the people in this thread, I don't qualify for that distinction. If I named you in this post, please don't delude yourself that your comments about me weren't attacks. None of them would survive the standards of other message boards. And if you posted them to the ACOR list, or MyCRCconnections, or several other sites I can think of, you wouldn't be posting any more or you'd be on moderation - because personal attacks in any form, even sideways innuendo, are just not permitted. And nobody is allowed to post nonsense like I am who I am, take me or leave me, or I won't be silenced as a 'reason' for what is basically, essentially, bad behavior.
People here are allowed to publicly attack other posters, and it's been going on for a long time...since I've been reading this board in 2007. There isn't only one culprit; there are many. In fact, the freedom to attack someone and excuse it with 'it's who I am' or a plea for kum-ba-yah moment and 'let's all play nice now' from the people who instigated the personal attack IS the community standard.
Every single one of us should look in the mirror, and ask ourselves if we'd behave the same way in person, if we're proud of our actions. I didn't participate in personal attacks, so yeah, I am proud of my actions. Are you?