My late father had polyps removed two or three times (heck, after hearing that it had been even once, at ~age 50, it didn't really matter how many more times...)
He did not believe in discussing his medical conditions with his children, and neither did/does my mom. As he advanced into dementia it became really challenging to provide effective help. The worse his dementia became, the lower his inhibitions. He also had about a 60-70% hearing loss for my entire life due to an accident when he was a teenager. For literally decades, this man complained that we were all mumbling! One day about two years before his death and shortly before my dx, he began to FINGER SPELL - something I'd learned how to do 30 years earlier in school. He knew I signed, he knew I taught all of my nephews how to finger spell and do some basic signs - but never once, when he desperately needed to communicate with us, did he ever use the skill he finally revealed he'd learned when he was in the Navy in the 40s! Anyway - as his inhibitions relaxed, he one day revealed that the doctor he'd been seeing for his prostate had also found polyps at his last scope. I was speechless, and looked at my mother, who nonchalantly said something like 'oh, yeah, he's found polyps a couple of times since his first exam.' I asked when the first exam had been. Oh - sometime around his 50th or 51st birthday.
By that family history, I should have been scoped at 40. But you can't take the preventative health care tests you don't know you need. By the time I knew, there wasn't any point in discussing it with my dad - how do you tell a 78 y.o. man with moderate dementia that his oldest daughter is now in the cage match of her life with stage IV cancer because she never knew or suspected that she should have been scoped before she turned 40? You don't.
OTOH, it taught me to be vigilant with my mom because she'll fall into that kind of selective information-sharing again if the topic makes her uncomfortable. Old habits die hard, if at all.
Be in harmony with your expectations. -
Life Out Loud4/04: dx'd @48 StageIV RectalCA w/9 liver mets. 8 chemos, 4 surgeries, last remission 34 mos.
2/11 recurrence R lung, spinal bone mets - chemo, RFA lung mets
4/12 stopped treatment