Postby cindyz » Mon May 10, 2010 12:33 pm
I am typing through tears as I send you all the utterly sad message that Stephen passed away yesterday. I thought it was the thing to do, to tell you all as soon as I could. You've been so helpful and supportive. He died at home, where he wanted to be. I never left his side, and during the last 30 minutes or so his mom and dad also held his hands. I've never experienced anything like this.
I don't feel at times that I can breathe. Everything seems so surreal. There is a physical weight pressed against my chest and I just wander aimlessly around. I know counseling is a good thing, but it won't bring him back. Nothing will. And that's all that can make this better.
Our children were here. Our 13-year old Rainey was by his and my side pretty much throughout everything. She wanted to be here. Our 10 year old Reide didn't want to be around him as he was dying, so she kept her distance outside. We had plenty of friends and family around for her. Since then, they've both been painting nonstop, and we've been talking a lot.
I'm not sure what to do. I keep looking for him, looking for signs, looking not only to hear his voice but to make sure his voice is coming from him, not me. I am so utterly and intensely distraught. I miss my Stephen. I miss him.
Wife to Stephen, dx 5/13/09; 45 yo
Stage IV w/numerous mets to liver, 2 to LNs
Colon resection 5/25/09
Folfox/Avastin, Folfiri/Avastin, Folfiri/Erbitux-progressed
Sir Spheres 2/2/2010
Admitted to hospital 4/23/2010
Passed away 5/09/2010