Hey BBeen,
Don't beat yourself up! Although I'm not a survivor, I know lots of them - and what I've seen is that everyone figures out how to live as a cancer survivor at their own pace. Some survivors are ready to run around and talk about colons as soon as they are diagnosed, some wait ten years or more before they are ready to even talk about it. Some get out and go skydiving, some just want to sit down to dinner with their families. And everyone goes through a time like you are feeling.
If this is a matter of you feeling like you want to escape and be a couch potato every once in a while, you probably just need a little more time to think before you get back to “real life." If that is the case, give yourself time to figure this out on your terms – that could be a month, a year, ten years or more. As Erika (5-year stage IV survivor) recently posted, she works hard to find a balance between living like she could die tomorrow and living like she is going to live for another 75 years. That is not an easy task for any of us to do, and I'm sure it's especially hard after being diagnosed with cancer.
However, I also want to bring up something important that I don’t think has been discussed yet anywhere on this board – one serious reality of a cancer diagnosis can be clinical depression. A LARGE number of patients spend at least some time on antidepressants – both during and after treatment.
So... if you feel like this is taking over your life, you feel like you can’t move off the couch even though you want to, you can’t make yourself do something constructive, you feel that you are stuck and can’t move forward – it could be clinical depression. Please talk to your doctor and stay open to getting treatment for it – you’d be amazed at how much some drugs can help!
I may have not said all of that right, but no matter what, you are not alone in any of these feelings.
Hannah