Postby Staci's team » Wed May 05, 2010 8:38 am
Doug, just another data point....you're doing a great job of considering options and thoughtfully listening to others' stories, so I thought I'd put this out there for you.
My wife's rectal tumor was "just inside the internal sphincter," to use the surgeon's terms, and "fixed to the muscles around the anus," so from the beginning he was talking APR and permanent colostomy. Subsequent opinions came to the same conclusion, so that remained the plan. She had the standard 28 sessions of chemoradiation, delay of 8 weeks to let the radiation continue to work, and had APR surgery on 11/20. We did end up having to take her back to the hospital due to a blockage caused by adhesions, so she had another surgery to get rid of the those and has been fully functional since.
In her case, from the time the surgeon first examined her, she did not have any concerns or hang-ups about the colostomy. As she puts it, "It's a bag or my life. I'll take the bag to keep my life." She has had no trouble with her ostomy since she came home in early December, and although I know it's only been a short time in the grand scheme of things, she's able to do everything she did before surgery -- moderate bicycling, swimming, and chasing after one who's just hit the "terrible two's."
She does still have constant muscle pain, from her "Barbie butt" rear end down through the outside of her quads, that both her surgeon and her oncologist attribute to the healing process. I won't lie -- some days she looks like she's 83 instead of 33 the way she walks. Every doc and nurse who have checked her behind since the surgery,though, have commented on what a great job the surgeon did, and a pic was even used in one of their tumor board presentations to demonstrate "this is what it should look like," so the healing process hasn't been compromised by a lackluster surgical job. She doesn't like hearing that it's a 6-12 month healing process, but accepts that yes, it was a major surgery, so it will indeed take time. Combine that with low blood counts because of the chemo and it just takes longer for stuff to heal.
OK, enough of a book for now. If you have any other questions about her experiences, feel free to PM me.
Chris
Husband to Staci, diagnosed at age 32
Clinical dx Stage II/III rectal cancer, 7/2009
APR surgery 11/09 leading to...
Pathological dx Stage IIIB, ypT3N1M0, 11/2009
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